Axel,

With boss/employee (or any set hierarchy) there is an unstable ground for the intimacy. Lines can easily get crossed, confused on both sides. Pressures to say yes or no based on various factors that don’t don’t belong in close connection. Plus, in your case, it puts a marriage at risk. Is it worth it? I guess that depends on what you talk about, right? What you do with it? Are you helping one another along your paths, or staring at each other?

With warmth,
Matt