Kristy,

I like the term “kindred spirit” for such folks. The “soulmate” shazam usually just means an unmet need is present on both sides, that turns a kindred sharing into something mysterious and alluring. Otherwise, its just a connection that is open, heartfelt, then moved away from when the communicating is done. No residue.

For your hubby, consider being more specific and staying on your side. Rather than “you’re a wonderful man”, perhaps “today, when you did this, I saw such and such and felt such and such. Thank you!” Perhaps his fear that he is dark will naturally erode as he sees your light shining on him. If you’re just trying to tell him what he is, his self image will perhaps fight your words off, dismiss them. 🙂

With warmth,
Matt