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August 14, 2014 at 3:31 am #63350AnandanParticipant
I am an engineer i finished my degree a year back and working now. I live in India where religion and cast will always be a barrier to love. And it is considered as greatest sin a boy and a girl could do. There is a girl in my neighborhood of different cast and same religion. Her parents are very close and good friends of mine. Off coarse even the girl. Once when i was doing my third year of my degree she proposed me . She was doing her final class of her school. Even though i knew her dad won’t accept us cause of cast i thought i could console him so i accepted her love after some days. She loved me more than i did. We were doing good . Her parents were very much strict with her watching her activities. Even also we would meet me daily and talk without their knowledge . Days passed . I finished my degree and finished her school and joined same branch of engineering what i did and she is doing her third year now where she has one more year to finish her degree. We had relationship of all kind physical mental everything . We used to hang out twice or thrice in every month . Her parents would allow her out often neither most of parents in India. Three and a half years passed. About 6 months back on 1st of Feb when i was in my office suddenly she told me that we have to end everything because her father has found about our relationship. She would never tell me what happened or what her father told about us. From that day on wards she never talks to me properly. After a long time of begging her asking what was the proper reason she said that her father told that he would not accept me and she had promised her father that she would not love me any more. Even when her father knew about our relation he never showed me that he knew. He was so casual with me. She was the only one avoiding me. At first i thought that she was in an relationship with someone else. But i found that she was not in love with anyone else .Once she said to me that she was in love love with someone else . i could not bare that day when she said so cried like hell. I told my sister what has happened and i cried . My sister when she asked to her that was she in love with anyone else she said that she loves me lot and her parents are compelling her to marry a relative of hers. I always asked her to come back to me even now i would never let her go. I do not want want her to let her go . A month back on 15 of last month her father came me suddenly came to and said “ What has happened to you ? Why are you doing like this ? i believed you soo much and you did like this. Your family is a good friend of mine and what would they think?” and he walked away. I found that she had told her dad that i was the one asking her to stay with me . From that day on her parents me and her we have never seen each other or even talked. They don’t allow her to use her phone or allow her to go out alone. Or i could not find out When she comes out i could not follow her all times. I finish my office i come home soon and try to see her and talk to her. But she doesn’t even make a little try to see me or talk to me . Even when i see her out she doesn’t look at me when talking . She just ignores me like seeing some one. Does she never understand she is hurting. I gave up everything i begged her i pleaded her to be with me . But she doesn’t even lifts her head to see me . I tried to talk with her in all possible ways i could through friends and everything i could but i failed . She doesn’t respond . i see her each and everyday and try to contact her even now and try to make her understand how much i need her with me. I couldn’t just let her walk away . i love her sooo much . She was the one who started this . Am really depressed now and couldn’t do anything properly. Even though i try to engage my self with family and friends i don’t do anything properly . i tried to go to a lot of counselling but couldn’t find a solution to find her back or leave her..i love her. I could talk to my parents or even her parents but how will i when she doesn’t even support me a little . How could someone react like this after so much has happened. I am really struggling. The truth is i don’t want to let her go.. Can i have a way to get her back with me…
August 14, 2014 at 9:37 am #63369Tinker BellParticipantHi I understand how you feel. Listen very very carefully. It’s very important. I know what she did only for her father. she gave up because of her father..She didn’t have courage. If she want to be with you, she should have courage to get over this. It doesn’t mean Courage se time lgta hai.. Have you heard about gay marriage in India? Gay couple got married this year.. They said it’s really hard to convince their parents and it took them 3 years.. See They didn’t give up.. But your girl gave up..It’s not really good that her dad told her to do that.. It’s like her stories is written in her father’s hands..Dad is making her life.. It’s really wrong… You are very loyal to her..You never give up..Never ever let her go.. I think there is always a way.. Some people always believe that there is no option that there is no way..But that is not truth..It’s very easy to give up when they think that. Truth is ANYTHING is Possible. I think you take time off thinking about her.. I mean take time with yourself.. You must read every powerful quote in tinybuddha.com. You must read daily..So that you will gain more powerful inside and know everything about world, love, family, yourself, etc….That’s very important and first step to do that.. Secondly you will figure out.. Stop thinking.. Live in moment. Get rid off past..Past can’t compare with future.. I want to say quote —
1. “Your time is limited. Don’t waste it living in someone else’s life.. Don’t be trapped by dogma. Don’t let the noise of others opinion drown you out inner voice.. ” — Steve Jobs
2. If you love her, let her go.. If she come back she is yours…
3. Someone asked God, “what is the funniest things you see in the world?” God Replied, “when Human make future plans”
Third one is superb..Its feel like nobody know about future… Good things happen to those who believe in oneself.. If you believe in yourself..good thing will happen..Just have faith..leave that to God… You must enjoy yourself…Be happy for no reason like a child..If you are happy for a reason…you are in trouble.. because reason can be taken from you.. So Be happy!
This time dekhna kya hoga.. don’t pretend that you don’t care about her at al..be real.. and this time you willn’t see her everyday.. I am sure it will work.. and she will think of you again..It will take time..I know she started this.. You should stop now like idiot..(if you do that seeing her everyday..she won’t mind it everyday about you…may be she will feel you love her and always see her…..). have faith..that all matters.. everything will be fine.. Think positively.. many people failed relationship because they lose faith and trust.. Time heals everything.. Go out with your friends..hangout anything you want..Be smile & happy because it will confuse her 😀 ) Be happy… Happiness will take you where happiness is…
Keep reading positive quote everyday..You will understand.. You will feel more powerful inside..and Be selfless..You are alive..You have one life..so why complicate life? 😀 so don’t worry…
Good luck!!- This reply was modified 10 years, 3 months ago by Tinker Bell.
August 14, 2014 at 10:07 am #63373EgeshParticipantHi! I agree with Ayesha’s answer. And I have felt the way you do write now, but try to focus..try to let go and let something else in to your life. Ask yourself questions..(how you can help yourself in this? )..what ever you – at least try…finally you will find a way! 🙂 and in the end it’s even better, you thought it will turn out. Actually, it is only my thought, but if you so desperately in love with someone…it can be dangerous for your own good. And like Ayesha said…Be happy! And celebrate You! Don’t blame anyone ( “..she started that”) it sounds like you blame her over your situation now…Be glad, you have a big heart full of love! Celebrate this! If you like to share your love…do it! Give it away to anyone 🙂 Give,give and give more..And believe..love is never ending source coming from your heart. You can do it! 🙂
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