Hi Mariposita,

I get where you’re coming from. I can feel exactly the same way sometimes. One thing that helps is to remind yourself that often, when a person is unkind towards you for no reason, it isn’t really about you although it most certainly feels that way because they’re directing the anger and negativity towards you.

A lot of the time, those people, whether they care to admit it or not, have issues going on in their life that they don’t know how to deal with. They become frustrated and/or angry with themselves and the only way they know to deal with that frustration or anger is to take it out on someone else. Their focus is then taken away from the fact that they feel bad and don’t know how to deal with their own stuff.

It may not be the case for everyone but it will be for some. When you see it from that perspective, it becomes a little bit easier to have a bit more compassion for them because they’re struggling to cope.