I would give serious thought to getting an annulment or divorce. I understand on some level that if you knew how sick he was in the beginning, that could be a deal breaker ~ and that is why he lied through omission. But by him doing that he made your decision for you/took away your true decision. And no intimacy? Please don’t beat yourself up for YOU lying to him. I agree that it was a response to unrelenting stress. And if you divorce, don’t consider it a failure. Just a lesson learned that you really, REALLY have to know someone and be on the same page to consider marriage. I wish your husband health, and you happiness!!