Hi rogue,

I think she senses your love and “neediness”. When someone really, really wants something it can become a burden for the other person. What I would do is cool way off. Maybe don’t text her or call her until she contacts you. This may take a while. You might feel anxious with the waiting. But if the friendship is real, I bet she will contact you. Then maybe contact her every month and a half. A “Hey, how are you” to a long talk on the phone. I find that to be a non threatening amount of time. This is not a game, this is so she feels no pressure.

The other thing is, if this other girl is her first relationship, there is a good chance it won’t be her last. Maybe visit her (no pressure!) next year and see where she is.

Best,

Inky