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“before you quit.. try”
“Never be sad for what is over, just be glad that it was once yours.!!!!”
“Avoiding something doesn’t always mean that you hate it….. It could also mean that you want it , but you just know that it isn’t yours……… ”
Every mistake you make is progress.
Mistakes teach you important lessons. Every time you make one, you’re one step closer to your goal. The only mistake that can truly hurt you is choosing to do nothing simply because you’re too scared to make a mistake.
So don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself. In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it!
And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win. Remember, if you never act, you will never know for sure, and you will be left standing in the same spot forever.
It is often self made.. i am walking through though a short distance.. just nearing 1 year… but it helped me learn so many things.. but i have not given up.. i wont leave that space… will fight..for it.i come across so many instances that disheartens me.. and encourages me as well..But it took sometime to realise that all of it were happening inside and nobody else knew.It hurt my health and it can do even more damage that one could imagine..Just because i was in love and wanted to be intimate.. and always cherished for that day to come as a reality. One thing i can say is try again..never quit.. if it is your passion..love like anything.. but do not regret or remorse.do not inflict pain on yourself.. you need to live healthy to enjoy a love life with her… Just imagine one day she turns around and you are sick?… everybody will laugh out so loudly.and now few words that i read here and somewhere and those my friends shared it helped me.. hope it will do to you too.somebody asked the question: What are you afraid of losing? And are you ready to move beyond that fear to get yourself unstuck?I would ask slightly different questions. I would pose the queries:WHY are you afraid of losing?CAN YOU DISCOVER HOW to move beyond your fear to get yourself unstuck?As I think more about this, it seems to me that we are not so much afraid of LOSS, as we are afraid of not getting BACK what we lost, or the equivalent of that.The successful, balanced people I know don’t lose or fail any less than anyone else. But what drives them to build on their losses, is their ability to BELIEVE that what goes down will again go up, and that the upturn will be better than what they had before.They are not always right about that. They don’t always win again right after a loss. But they don’t get defeated and they look at a failure as the path towards a solution. As cliché as it is, winners see failure as the creation of new opportunities. They really do!So how did they get that way? How did they learn to move past their fears?Somehow, some way, either by being born that way or being taught it, or by convincing themselves through trials and errors, these risk takers developed FAITH. At their core belief they expect losses to be only temporary and that everything will work out.When it doesn’t, when they reach a dead-end on a particular path, their attitude is: There are always other paths, other options with more gains to be found.I think the way to amass FAITH (if you weren’t born with it or taught it) is to never give up and keep generating more and more possibilities until those possibilities turn into probabilities and eventually WINS – sometimes BIG wins, sometimes LITTLE wins, but wins just the same. Yes, you have to be willing to stay in the game and keep playing.And now we’re back to question, . Are you ready to move beyond that fear to get yourself unstuck?
source.. my life and tiny buddha…