In my experience, you will never get the trust back – as the break of trust is too betraying. Too many lies, too many forms of deciet. Even if you forgive – its the forgetting that is the problem. As much as you want to – it is very hard to do, unless you are a very very stoic and non emotional person. If you have a tendency to analyse, you will find it near impossible.
Cut your losses. He is immature and wanted silly fantasy nonsense instead of the woman beside him.
Maybe some will say im being harsh, but I wasted time on a guy, went to therapy – where he used the time to deny all wrongdoing. You may waste precious time. Even if he says the sun moon and stars – would you believe him ?
I feel your pain. I have been there, was engaged, broke it off – and I am very very thankful I did. Turned out I did the right thing.
Just dont waste your good years on an eejit who should have known a good thing when he had it. ( for the record i’m pretty hot – if I do say so myself – so none of it is ever to do with it – its about the thrill of being a sneaky little snake 🙂 ) Whatever you do – know it has zero to do with you, and all about his need for en ego boost.
As you can see – if I think of it I still get angry. I still feel like slapping his face ! But not worth our time. Be with someone who cares for you – he would do it to anyone, even the silly foolish virtual girl from Colorado. He would do the very same to her.
You are worth more…close the chapter.
Meditate, let go, he gas a journey and lessons to learn. He has a moral compass to grow, somehow, and some self control to cultivate. Believe me – dont wait for this doorknob to man up 🙂
Namaste, xxxx.