Bottom line: He cannot “give up” his preferences. They are part of who he is. It’s like saying I prefer coffee to tea but will change that preference and start drinking tea. I might be OK with the tea but I will always long for the coffee. (Not the best analogy but you get the idea.)
You are every man’s dream girl! You are not superficial, you do give support, affection but you don’t expect your partner to be your all in all.
Men find that very freeing.
However, it seems as if he feels you aren’t “really” that way. He seems to thing you aren’t “complete” yet. Like a cake not quite finished. Maybe the icing is missing? He loves you but you aren’t extroverted. He wants that, his family wants that.
Scary stuff. You cannot change your basic make up of who you are. You will probably forever feel as if you aren’t quite “measuring up”, if you continue in this relationship.
He has already noticed the problem and attempted to solve it by saying to you that you both should part ways.
He is telling you all the answers… it is just hard to hear sometimes.
NO! You are not being selfish. Or at least not in a bad way. It isn’t selfish to put your self first when it comes to being true to yourself. That is called self-love. And we need more of that in the world!
You sound like an amazing person. You are young, bright, happy. Allow yourself to experience life and find the one who doesn’t want you to change. The one who will beg you to never change a thing about your amazing self!