Will, I like how you describe this behaviour as “bad mental habits”. I agree that we all choose our paths but I don’t understand how some people can constantly blame others. Of course, we all do this from time to time, but when it becomes a way of life, it’s just so debilitating. Blaming others puts them very much in a victim role which then becomes a sad cycle they can never escape b/c it’s always someone else’s fault.

In the end it all boils down to one thing: people will change when THEY want to change. And they need to want to change for themselves. For family and friends, it’s torture watching people battle the demons of depression … but I’ve learned that the more we try to pressure them to get help, the more they resist. CBT and EFT are very effective treatments – but only if the person wants to do it. When they’re ready to listen, to hear, to activate change for themselves, it’s amazing what can happen. So don’t lose hope for your friend. Peace.