Hi Jade Green,

Closure is an inside job. No words, face-to-face or email will give closure. Also, you don’t know how you will feel three years from now, so I say Don’t Send the Letter! By holding something in limbo for three years, and in essence ambushing him in the future, you are NOT letting go and will merely regurgitate stuff that will be ancient history by then.

What you can do: Wait five years from now. Say nothing. No communication during that time. Then run into him or call him ~ Just a “hi”. If he communicates with you before then, again, just a “hi, how are you?” Stay away from any big emotional proclamations. He will see you with new eyes, perspective, and who knows where you will both be by then?

Blessings,

Inky