Hi Charlotte,

This may not be what’s happening AT ALL, but here is a shot in the dark…

Is it possible that:

1. In the rare instance when you’ve had that “I’m falling in love” feeling. That “I have a crush” feeling. That you don’t often pursue it? Or when you had you came to grief?

2. In the meantime, really, really nice guys would ask you out and you would go out with them at first out of politeness?

3. Do you have that “Who do you think you are?” feeling/thought when you want to say “No thank you” to going out/being with someone?

4. I can see feeling guilty for not wanting to be with someone. But shame is from your deep past or childhood. Someone or something did a number on you. What was it? Ferret out what that “thing” was. Knowing is half the battle.

5. Hypnotherapy can help with dealing with shame. Or the “Tapping Technique” (google it).

Best,

Inky