Hi Jim,

Maybe the trick is to turn your shame into pride.

1. Do a ritual (humans thrive on ritual!) to exorcise the shame, release it, then invite pride in to fill the void. Once shame is cast out and pride is invited in, immediately do a protection gesture in the ritual to keep the pride safe in your heart. Then, do a blessing to end the ritual. You can make the elements of this up. It could be as simple as words, or as elaborate as you want with props, loved ones, music, etc.

2. Bathe yourself in books, movies, music and art from other transgendered people. Be careful not to get sucked back into a shame-spiral though! Just find stuff made by and images of, other transgendered, and their stuff doesn’t even have to BE about being transgendered, you know? The point is to make being transgendered NORMAL in your own mind.

3. Meet other transgendered through Meet Ups, going out, clubs, etc. Find several friends. Real friends, not someone you’ll meet once and never see again.

Good Luck!!

Inky