Dear Anyone:
You wrote: “Can I own all the responsibilities of the world? Or do I need to…” I wrote to you before on the topic of responsibility. Once I understood the issue in MY life- it made a lot of things clearer and life easier than before. I hope you get it clear as well. Here is how it works: he is 100% responsible for his actions. You are 100% responsible for your actions. If there is or will be a relationship between you and him then you are 50% responsible for the relationship itself and he is 50% responsible for the relationship itself.

Now, if that relationship hurts his kids, to the extent that the relationship itself hurts his kids- then you are 50% responsible for hurting his kids… because you are 50% responsible for the relationship.

Simple math. Do you agree or disagree with it?

You wrote: “I thought if the father (who’s blood is running in these kids) doesn’t care about them, who am I to… ” I wonder what the rest of the sentence is?

Did you mean: if their father doesn’t care about the kids, who am I to care about them? If so, if so… is their only chance to be cared about is if their father does? If he doesn’t- are they doomed, nobody should care about them? Does it mean that if their father doesn’t care about them, they must not be worthy of someone caring about them?

Looking forward to your reply…
anita