Well, I agree with you that emotions are messeengers. I think what I am really asking is about how to love myself. I don’t mean that in the sense that I deprecate myself or believe I am unworthy or anything (though I do have my moments), rather the concept of loving myself seems very abstract and nor at all obvious. I have no trouble loving others, because I see them,enjoy them, empathize with them. In order to love myself, I feel like I must view myself as a separate entity. In which case there are two of me; the real me that does the loving, that silently observes, and the my mind-body that is being observed and being loved by the observer.

My question, therefore, us for anybody out there with a sublime sense of self-love: what is the experience of loving yourself like? Was there an intentional means by which you came by this relationship of love with yourself, or did it happen by accident? Did you just suddenly “know” that you loved yourself and never looked back?