@Joel @Inky

Ok so he replied… “Sorry for the late reply. I just don’t think it’s that easy. We’re not the same people we knew each other as. You’re not the way I knew you. Something was lost in that change and the same connection just isn’t there anymore.”

These words really upset me, I feel like he always finds a way to twist the knife in and make me feel guilty. He is insinuating that I changed for the worse over the time we were apart and with other people, when really I just feel like the same old Helen deep down inside, but a little stronger as a person with more knowledge of the world. These words make me feel like I’ve stepped backwards and become someone he doesn’t even want anything to do with, which really hurts.

How can I overcome this guilt which he is placing on me? And should I now step back and keep a quiet silence or reply once again defending myself? A friend once said that he sounds like an emotional manipulator as he makes me feel guilty about things when I shouldn’t necessarily feel that way. Part of me wants to reply and make him reflect on HIS flaws as he always maintains an air of moral superiority whatever the situation.

Or, perhaps I am just too emotional and reading into this too much and its actually a fine harmless message trying to tell me ITS OVER FOR GOOD. I would really appreciate your thoughts on this.

With love,

Helen xx