Dear Rebecca:
In regard to your pain about your mother’s pain (via your empathy): change your location to pain, if you can- from being suffocated UNDERNEATH it- to moving yourself to the side of it, so you ar not crushed by its weight.

When you talk to her daily on the phone- is it every day? Does she express her pain every time you are on the phone? How?
What do you tell her in response? How do you try to make her feel better and what does she say in response?

anita