Hi jdkm,

So let’s say you’re on a diet. But you go to an event, have a bite of birthday cake, and beat yourself up. That’s what they mean by “Don’t be so hard on yourself.” They don’t mean buying a Carvel cake and eating it all in one sitting on purpose!

But you’re not on a diet, you’re not a bad person, you don’t have a goal. You have gone through a break up! Even if you feel you should be “over it”, it is SO common to sleep around after one! Kind of proving to yourself that you’ve still “got it”.

I’m not sure why we have meaningless flings ~ probably a deed seated fear of being alone.

“Don’t judge anyone, not even yourself.”

Next time say to the guy, “I don’t go home with anyone unless there’s a commitment.” Be brave. If he leaves for sure it will re-trigger the feelings you had during the breakup. But don’t even get to that point. You are OK on your own AND a gift for any man.

Blessings,

Inky