Oh Dear Lord Nicole!

I know EXACTLY how you feel! Even as a grown 40 something year old woman I have recently had this.

One neighbor, C, started calling me “BEST FRIEND”, really emphasizing the words. I felt kind of forced to say that back to her. I hemmed and hawed and said something like, “Well my childhood friend J is my historic best friend, and you are my best friend in this town, that’s for sure!” Now, that wasn’t entirely true, as I could easily say that to two other people in town! I think she got the hint and backed off.

But THEN! We were at an event and I saw my dear friend B, who used to be my neighbor. We both have the same kind of mixed heritage and background, so we “get” each other. Now, I never talk on and on about B, or even barely mention her. But C was totally threatened! She was all, “That’s enough of B!” when I’m all, “Let’s sit together”.

Now, being 40-ish, that’s a drag. I will now forever have to strategically plan get togethers and parties where they will not only be sparate, but so they each won’t hear about it (especially C!!). Thankfully everyone is saddled with kids so it’s not a big deal. But jealousy IS the most annoying feeling in the world! Understandable for romance NOT friendship IMO!

I would call your friend’s bluff and say, “I have several friends, actually, as you do. Your reaction is really weird. So I WON’T mention E! I think you made the best decision for both of us, S.”

Good Luck!

Inky