Hi Charles26,

I usually don’t reply to topics here because i feel that other people have much more insightful things to say.
But i recognise quite a few things what you write – some of them more in the past.
I also felt like that for a long time: so bored, don’t know what to do. It took me quite a while, slowly to start to learn which kinds of things i like doing. I still have some way to go but i did find some things already that i enjoy and that already does a lot to me.

Working and studying, you sounds pretty busy. I’d like to ask you what you study and work, but that’s actually not my business. What i mean to ask is, do you really like those things? Is your study something that really interest you, that you like spending your time and energy with?

You write that you don’t have a group of friends after moving. Did you move far away from your previous place, and was that recently? I mean, yes it can be difficult to meet new friends when you are new. I moved to an other country myself and i see that many people who come here make friends quickly and easily. But for me it doesn’t work like that.
So maybe you need to give yourself more time, you already do so much, maybe not everything can come at once.

I’d just like to speak for myself, because i don’t want to be projecting my own stuff to you. I think that for me, it is good to focus more and doing things that i like, and finding out more about my interests, and that way it might be easier to connect with other people. That if i’m too focused on ‘i dont have any friends here and would like to meet some people’ – it works the opposite way. But i don’t know if that’s right.

I recognise your feeling though, that it seems like you don’t exist because of isolation. I hope you can find some ways to connect more with yourself in the first place.