Hi Anita, I had a very happy marriage for the majority, I would say the last 5 years were very unhappy, my husband suffered from depression and he pushed me away in the end and I myself was very depressed for the first 2 years of our breakup. I then got myself together and moved on with my life building up my career , buying a house and generally having a happy stress free life. My 3 wonderful children are now all grown up and self supportive. The man I met is a wonderful person but he has the world on his shoulders and it scares me that I could be going down the same path being with someone that can suffer with depression. I am thinking that I would rather be on my own for the rest of my life than feel the way I do at the moment.

Thanks for the advice Anita. I always thought I was strong emotionally but it turns out I am not. Having said that I feel that as difficult as it would be I could walk away if I had to. I just would really like things to work out, I have a very loving family and good friends but I do not want to confide in them as I think relationships are private and I don’t want them to judge. I do still have girly holidays and go out with my friends as I became quite independent while I was on my own and my partner does not have a problem with that at all.