Dear Carlos Torres:

It is like you are in a picture that is a big mess- forms and colors are everywhere, messy, you can’t see anything clearly. She is somewhere there in the picture, you are somewhere but there are too many waldos and hidden things, mysteries, puzzles- a whole mess.

Take that picture and put it away, trash it or otherwise PUT IT AWAY. Clear your mind and say to yourself: start from the beginning: a new picture: here I am. There she is. What SIMPLE questions can I ask her to find out the information that I need? then ask the right questions and listen to the REAL answers. Be CLEAR. Make it SIMPLE.

As is there is no way to make sense of your situation, too messy. Get rid of the mess, start anew.

You created the mess. She created the mess. Both of you are not clear. You made a mess. She made a mess. You are too invested in a certain result (and they lived happily-ever-after) to SEE what could be so easy to see if you were calm and clear. First, you get clear. Accept the possibility that you will not have the result you are so attached to. Let it go- let the dust settle so you can see what is right in front of you.
anita