Hi Annie and welcome to TinyBuddha. First of all, thank you for this, I’m just glad someone does:

>P.S. opposites attract. When I was super confident, loud, and out going I met my recent partner who was shy, quiet, and cool. He is an introvert. I love introverts.

Please don’t take this the wrong way but our personalities are kind of ingrained in us – we cannot often change that (powerful events that happen to us might but it can happen, you can’t make them happen). So if being impulsive is a part of your personality, I’m sorry but you can’t change that – the best you can probably do is learn to accept and love that about yourself.

But you said that you were quiet and reserved so you are probably an introvert yourself. This had happened to me a while ago – I had gotten really impulsive and I’d start arguing with people and then end up feeling bad about it, over-analyzing it over and over again in my head until it drove me crazy.

The way I changed that was by being aware of myself, like really aware, constantly examining myself i.e. how I was standing (my posture which can play a really huge part in how we’re feeling), what I was saying, what amount of stress/anxiety was I under, etc. Once you can learn to do that, you can learn to analyse when you are getting impulsive and keep it under check.

Hope it helps.