Dear David:

What you shared here is that before this relationship she was “very reluctant to be in relationship – she kept on telling me that she was not ready and that she still haven’t figured herself out” and you had “long period of depression with suicidal thoughts.”

Then the relationship happened and all was “perfect.” The two of you took a BREAK from your miseries and made something PERFECT. Only it wasn’t perfect. It would have been closer to perfect if the two of you talked- during your relationship- about your individual problems and helped each other with those. You ignored them and enjoyed the break/ vacation away from the problems.

And now they are back: her reluctance and your depression. Back to the beginning.

If you agree with my analysis here, you can- if you are able and willing- to try again with her but this time offer that the two of you communicate while in the relationship and help each other, help each other deal with the reluctance and depression and the causes for her reluctance and your depression. This time make it real, not “perfect.”

anita