Dear Annie:

Your post strikes me with its honesty, insight and the telling of things as they are. My high five to you!

The fact that you waited for that guy doesn’t sound to me as “very sad and desperate.” To me it sounds as Annie needing to be loved. A normal human need encoded in our genes, preserved and encouraged through milllions of years of evolution. “very sad and desperate”? No, not at all.

If you see this, that your need is a need encoded in your genes, completely understandable, valid, accepted as such- by you- as you run around the campus and as you spend time alone, you will be less troubled by this need. You will have this need, only you will not have the negative UNTRUE judgment about it. That will ease this unnecessary distress.

anita