I don’t have any insight in those different aspects in myself, and i think it would be good to take a look at it. To be able to identify: this is Scared Sann, this good-hearted Gerda, this is Wise Wendy, this is Anxious Andrea, this is Brave Betty, this is Naive Natalie… Is it good to let them have their say now, or should i tell him or her, to sit on his chair and let somebody else have the show..?

Sann
I’m starting to feel like Edgar the Expert on this topic.. 🙂
All I can say is that was a useful exercise for me. I needed a strategy for dealing with chaos in my head. This can be triggered by pressure , real or imagined, when my self-esteem is on the line, when the straw has broken the camel’s back. Tired of taking crap from others and myself…(mainly Ruminator Ron and Zac starts to feel invisible)
I’ve decided that Zac is starved of attention. He needs a boost. The more assertive Zac becomes, the less influence characters like Ron, will have over me.
..someone advised a book called “the 7 pillars of self-esteem” . I’ve listened to the audio on YouTube. it is helpful. But I am now trying to be mindful of having good self-esteem every day. The first step is self-acceptance. For me, being 105 kg, I need to embrace the fatness (don’t laugh Anita). Then gradually lose some I guess. But not as if “I refuse to love myself until I’m 85 kg”. That kind of thinking is what makes society sick….in my view.
to be continued…I need a rest….