ah the old ‘should’ complex. That’s the best way to put yourself up an obstacle and then feel bad for not doing what you ‘should’ be doing

My friends and I have banned the word SHOULD from our vocabulary. Honest – we now say COULD

I COULD do this and I COULD do that and suddenly it’s a choice and if you do it – yey and if you don’t it’s because you chose another option.

I relate. Stupid things. I do do things that are just for me – having a bath in the middle of the day even though I’m clean -just for nothing. Taking a newspaper to the pub to sit quietly with a pint. walking a different way to work just to prove they can’t control me. haha

I too do the procrastination thing and I’ve adopted a secondary motto: shall I.. shall I just do it now? come on girl, let’s just do it now. and I feel an immense feeling of pride that I did that thing – could even be as useless as I dunno = putting a picture up on the wall. other times I’ll walk past it so many times I stop seeing it.

There’s nothing wrong with thinking things and thinking things – forgive yourself mate – just up the ante a wee dot. Shall I.,, shall I just do it now? and if you say to yourself =- NO then you chose that and that’s because you COULD. it takes the pressure off

as for the bullying colleague – what’s that about? try the charm offensive – that’ll really tick em off!