Dear Moon:

I am finding my way, in the very process, always a process and in it I can see that there will always be the consequences of the abuse that I suffered and that are there now and in the future.

Dear pomplemous:

Hiding behind past abuse so to not take charge: yes, indeed. I know the phenomenon very well. At times, though, I have moments of self empathy where I say to myself: oh, I see, I am limited because of this or that. Fact is, I am limited and I only have so many years to .. un-limit myself. There is a moderation aspect to the extreme negative (not taking charge, hiding behind victimhood) and the extreme positive (I can do anything, be anything, no longer affected by past abuse, “as good as new.”

anita