I am a student on my final year of university. After I finished my exams, I decided that I would sever ties with two colleagues that I used to hang around with as the relationship seemed to be one sided. I was basically used as their therapist, I used to be their source of guidance and rock when they had problems but it seemed that my problems and emotional well-being was neglected and never considered. There were times when I would go into my pocket to make sure one could eat and I would to drop my plans to visit her while she was feeling suicidal just to uplift her spiritually even though my situation wasn’t the best. The other colleague also used to call me to listen to all her problems, however, this colleague is very negative and has a gossip problem which I was very cautious of, and I decided that since she would gossip about the other girl as well as start random conflicts with people while we were out, I decided that the best thing for me to do was to remove myself from that negative equation. So while I was on summer vacation, I decided that I would change my number after having one of them ignore my messages and the other not messaging me at all because her problems had subsided. Now that I am back at uni, the gossiper confronted me, claiming that she was worried yet, she told me that her and the other girl had been messaging each other back and forth in anger that I had severed contact with them. However, I can’t help but wonder to myself, Why did they not try to reach out to be by email incase something was wrong GENUINELY with me? I suffer from depression quite a bit and my personal life is not the greatest, yet despite all the things that I have done for them, especially emotionally, why could neither one of them turn around and ask if my well-being was ok? Not one of them considered all of the good things I had done for them! I can’t help but find humans selfish at times. Anyway, on monday, I saw both of them waiting outside university even though the class had finished and since it was an evening class, the place was completely empty, although I could tell that they were talking about me, instead of confronting me they turned their backs and pretended I wasn’t there (which is GOOD since I do not wish to have contact with either of them anymore) but I was just wondering what the best way for me to overcome a sense of emotional betrayal would be and how I would go about avoiding them in a more positive manner?

Many thanks