Anita, I also could have been more independent (even despite having an illness). There was a point where I was co-dependent and I feel I’m becoming less and less so as time goes on. I’m more aware of not being co-dependent and so reliant on another person for everything. Now that I’ve been single for quite awhile I’m doing A LOT more things alone, despite having Lyme Disease (grocery shopping, running errands, cooking, etc…). It’s not always easy and sometimes I literally do have to ask for help. But I’m trying.