Dear Antshsy:

You probably mean “he” when talking about your partner, right?

It is okay to end a relationship with a partner who is depressed and has been depressed for a long time, definitely (!) before you commit as in marriage. It is okay to choose your well being. Your responsibility is to take care of yourself, not to take care of him. Plus you were not able to cure him so far and are not likely to be able to do that, so you are most likely to end up, if you are together with him, with two sick people instead of one: him and you.

You are not a saint, you are a human being. You need your partner to promote your well being, not to take it away from you!

anita