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  • December 6, 2015 at 5:46 pm #89071
    TriangleSun
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    I’m a pretty big sports follower and as much as i hate reading rumors I ran across an article today that talked about Tim Tebow’s girlfriend leaving him because as a devout Christian he refused to have sex with her before marriage. Honestly, I think Tebow’s a pretty shitty QB lol, but I’ve always honored the guy for standing by what he believes. Of any public person i can think of he is the best role model out there.

    Anyway, this got me thinking about intimacy and what it means to people. To me intimacy isn’t about sex it’s the times when you hold each other, cuddle, kiss and just talk about anything or… maybe it’s just looking into each other’s eyes and just sharing the beautiful moment of understanding each other’s needs w/o saying a word before falling asleep in each other’s hands. I think the majority of couples miss this concept entirely. Hell, i think just about every woman I’ve ever been with missed this concept. I don’t mean sex isn’t important – it is, but if it takes sex to put intimacy in a relationship it’s already screwed.

    What do you guys think? What does intimacy mean to you?

    December 6, 2015 at 8:43 pm #89108
    jock
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    gently rubbing wrists and rotator cuffs, tickling trigger fingers, fondling flexor tendons, kissing carpal tunnels, grabbing glutes,
    …have all worked for me… my partner and I tend to lick each others’ wounds as we get older or just complain about our aching bodies. 🙂

    tough topic to speak authentically about, so easy to be misinterpreted. But of course you’re right. Those daily hugs are essential for mental health. Really, I’d be sad without them.

    December 7, 2015 at 4:12 am #89128
    Anonymous
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    I agree with you Triangle Sun 100%. I remember when I dated my ex-gf who is Brazilian back in 2007. We were exactly 8 years apart, our relationship was amazing in all aspects except for 1 thing. She had an extremely high libido and always wanted to have sex more than twice a day, as I was able to go without having sex for an entire month. We still cuddled, kissed and fell asleep in each other’s arms when we weren’t having sex but in the end I was just not up to par with her libido/sexual needs that I felt it was best for her and I to part. When our relationship ended, it ended very nice and calm. She was definitely hurt because I was the one who ended it but I honestly wasn’t ready at the time due to my age and maturity to settle down with her at the time. Plus I also felt I couldn’t satisfy her libido on a daily basis. As I could go a month without it. We actually became friends again a year ago and she is currently doing really well in her life. I personally feel that sex is a private thing between a couple and both should feel comfortable. A real relationship should never be based upon sex, ever. Affection/cuddling and doing things together outdoors is more fulfilling.

    Hope that helps.

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