Marisol,

I forgot to address a very important part of your post. The part about you dealing with the aftermath of your breakup.

It’s hard. Very hard. You’ll most likely spend a lot of time analyzing and interpreting what went on in your relationship and what you could have done differently, etc.

No, you are not crazy. You are not at fault for what is happening. You are not responsible for what he has done. You did what any other person would have done. You stuck with him because you genuinely believed he’d be different than last time. You stayed and wanted it to work because you loved him. There’s nothing wrong with that. Also, you did what any other person in a relationship would do, you brought up your concerns so that you could talk it through. It is not your fault that he didn’t want to talk it through. You did not deserve for him to call you crazy or say whatever else he might have said to you. You were only trying to express yourself.

Yes, he will most likely continue trying to get back with you. But do not give in. When you are feeling tempted to talk to him, or to go back with him think of all the bad things he said or did. Think about all those horrible things he did, cheating on you, denying the facebook pages, the anxiety you felt, the lack of trust, different paths you are on, etc. Think about that everytime you want to go back to him. And ask yourself, do I really want to go back to that? The answer is no, because you don’t deserve that.

Anytime he gets in contact with you, you’ll be tempted to take him back because you love him and everything you’ve shared, good memories,etc. But don’t. Again visualize everything bad he did to you. That’ll help keep everything in perspective for you.

Relationships like that are mentally draining and not worth it. Stay strong.