Dear Penguin:

How to be content with 2.1, you ask… and not be attached to the more desired 1st, so to feel not inferior, to be approved of and admired maybe by your boyfriend and friend… And this is part of you feeling inferior in several areas this year at uni and feeling not enough love in your life…

You wrote that you feel a growing anxiety about your grade. The anxiety is not new, is it? It was about something else before this grade business…?

Can you list the things your fear attached itself to in the last year, before this grade?

I am asking because if this is so, if you stop focusing on the grade, you will likely focus on something else…

anita