Peace to you too, Seaisland: we were both wounded. And yes, if there is a suspicion on either party (you or me), let us ask each other what we meant by this or that, to clarify. I know you can trust me not because I think I will not make mistakes with you like I just did by projecting my old furnishing into your quote. I know you can trust me because I am not angry with you and I don’t have a desire to hurt you. so i don’t have to be careful. This way I know that if you feel hurt by something I write, that a clarification, once requested, will clear things.

One thing I realized is that people often hurt others because they are angry and mean to hurt.

anita