Dear Amy:

It is very obvious to me that you should have nothing to do with that man, the father of your child. It suddenly clicked in my brain: you cannot handle any contact with this man. And so it has to be no contact with him. How did I not think of it before?

If I was your doctor, this is what I would prescribe: no contact with the man. Whatever arrangement need to be made, let them be made so that he no longer calls you, so that you no longer see him in person… never to see him, never to hear his voice again. No contact. If you have to explain it to people, simply tell the truth, that you cannot emotionally handle contact with him, that it makes you sick, that it is killing you and will bring about your early demise. And you want to live, so, no contact it must be.

If you need a diagnosis to explain this, one I am sure can be found. I am serious, this is killing you. The fatigue, the hospital stay of late… the distress.

You must be protected, for your own survival and for the sake of your ability to be a mother, from any contact with the man!

It is YOU who needs to be protected from him. How, I don’t know yet, but there must be a way, a legally acceptable way to do so.

anita