Dear Amy:

Do you think she sees this behavior when she spends time with him, that he is treating his girlfriend that way or his own daughter, calling (gf or daughter) names, getting in her face, punching lunging, spitting… etc?

And is it possible that she sees this behavior elsewhere?

How are the interactions between you and your daughter? Does she get personal, calm attention from you, private attention at home… does she share her feelings with you, seek you to comfort her?

anita