Hi Lauren,
The prior post concerned me. The statement he made, about the excuse of his controlling father and that is why he acts the way he does. It smells like an excuse. Be aware that he is basically saying ” I cant help it, take it or leave it”… if he doesnt show interest or need to change.
Why does he get an excuse and you have to swallow it? I have swallowed this for 35 years and realize I kept bending to him and never thinking I needed attention, love or affection. Continue therapy, but with your eyes open. I wasted 35 years in a marriage the same non-attention, love or affection. It was always “my fault somehow” when I tried to make things better. The problem was always me, not him, in his eyes.
Counseling helps, as long as the therapist hears both sides without judgement, and the couple make efforts. Is he making efforts after counseling, or is it still your problem, without changes from his side? Seems he likes his live-in housekeeper and maid, and doesn’t feel he needs to make changes. Dont have a baby in this unstable environment, It would be sad. HOw much are you willing to bend?