That is part of my problem. What I want, and what is the right thing to do according to the law are 2 completely different things.

I know that going down the legal path will mean that he will still have visitation rights. Unless he’s a mass murderer, he has his rights.
So, when that happens, I need to be prepared. I need to know that he’s all in, or not at all. Also, I need to know my child will be safe in his presence. This wishy-washy “only in when it suits me” attitude has to stop, and what I have been doing over the last 6 years has not been working, so I changed tactics to get him to change. I want my child to have a father figure and a relationship with his extended family. Best case scenario for my child is that he sees the error of his ways and completely changes everything about himself. Is it likely to happen? No way. But, at least then the courts will know who made 110% of the effort, and who made none. I will have a better chance of removing his parental responsibility that way.

Youre right, I have no idea what I’m doing anymore. I’m sorry that I’m being so unclear. I know what I’m trying to do, but it’s not coming across that way huh.