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"How to Ask for Help from People You Respect" from Matthew Alexander Sloane

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    dotcom1
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    Hi all,

    Although I really loved the article “How to Ask for Help from People You Respect” from Matthew Alexander Sloane, where he explains why he failed when he asked for help and how he got it right eventually; I am asking to everyone the same question again how to ask for help from people you respect?

    Different person, different situation… Where Matthew was able to integrate the person he was seeking help from into his request he got some positive returns. I cannot integrate people’s work or achievements because I am not writing anything, I am asking them to judge me professionally, to assess me.

    Here is my story in a few words. I am a 45 years old French male. I have worked in the same industry for about 20 years and I have moved to Australia 3 years ago. Yet I haven’t landed a job and I want to ask some people in my industry which I do not know, to check if there is something awfully wrong with my resume plus professional profile in general.

    How do I seek for help without sounding desperate?

    Thanks in advance for all your inputs.

    #95411
    Matty
    Participant

    Hi dotcom1,

    My advice would be to first, seek a professional resume writer/ editor to have a look at your mad skills! Especially if you are in a particular industry, i know you have to write a resume for that industry, even that job. I change my resume slightly every time i have applied for a job or volunteer position.

    Secondly, Are there any industry meet-ups that you can attend? If there are ones, even networking breakfasts/ lunches, these would be helpful just to associate with others, and word of mouth is usually more of a reference anyway. You never know where that will lead.

    Third, how not to come across needy and desperate? It comes down to ‘how’ you phrase the question. If someone says “i need help” that is so broad and really sounds like someone couldn’t be bothered figuring out what they need help for. If you were to keep your questions short and concise you may have more luck. For example; when asking for help; “i have attitude, motivation, prior experience, what more do i need to make YOU hire me?” This is not desperate, this in my opinion is someone who is straight to the point, be straight to the point. Don’t use emotive words like; ‘it’s been tough’ ‘its so hard to find work, what can i do?” always direct the question to the person and reiterate what you can do for them. Contacting HR departments in places where you would want to work is ideal, that way you are taking the initiative to understand hiring and what that place/ company is looking for.

    **I live in Australia too, and overall employment opportunities are still existent, but just harder to find. Because you haven’t had work for three years, employers might see that negatively and wonder why you haven’t worked. Maybe finding a job outside your field with a similar skill set might be a good first step. At least you have something on your resume for your time in australia. I hope this was somewhat helpful. Good luck.

    #95430
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear dotcom1:

    As to your question: “I am asking to everyone the same question again how to ask for help from people you respect?” I am not familiar with the article you mentioned so I am not referring to it. As to the question by itself, it makes me wonder about asking for help from someone one does not respect? Hmmm.. why would one do that unless it is to use that person? My answer is to ask for help with the intent that the interaction with the other person would be a Win-Win, win for you and win for him or her.

    Three years looking for a job and being in a new country, isn’t this tough for you? Please do share more, if you’d like!

    anita

    #95567
    Eris
    Participant

    Hi dotcom1

    I don’t know what industry (IT maybe with that name?) you are in but if it is one where there is some demand for temporary or agency staff then contact a temp agency. They will give you feedback on whether your resume is what their clients are looking for and temps find it easier to get a foot in the door that can lead to connections/permanent jobs.

    Even if looking for a permanent job in new countries i would always get in touch with the temp agencies too.

    Hope that helps

    Eris

    #95581
    Nancy Fairbrother
    Participant

    Hi dotcom1, here’s a way I used to get information about an industry I wanted to enter. I looked up businesses in that field and then contacted the owners (entrepreneurs of 1- or 2-person companies) and told them I was considering entering that business, but I’d like to find out what it would be like to do it. I said I’d like to interview them over coffee. They all accepted and were very happy to share their experience and advice with me. I made a short script before contacting them by phone. I know this isn’t your situation, but you may be able to modify this process to fit your needs. Good luck.

    #95660
    dotcom1
    Participant

    Dear all,

    Thank you for your replies, I found quite interesting that every reply answers part of the question but from a different perspective.


    @Anita
    For the past 3 years I have been a stay-at-home-dad we moved to Australia with a 9 months old baby and his older brother

    #95668
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear dotcom1:

    A stay at home dad, sounds exciting to me! To take care of two children of young ages: I can’t think of a job more important than this!

    Please do post again…

    anita

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