This is something I’ve been struggling with for 2 weeks now. And it may even be silly. I’m 29, almost 30 and I met this guy (call him Jay) in November (who’s 25) and we really hit it off. He’s ambitious, sweet, goofy, and seems to have a good head on his shoulders. We went on dates and between December and January he been constantly asking me to make things “official between us, like be a real couple. I told him I like how things were going with us and we’d see what happens. One night after we went out to dinner, we were sitting in his car and he confessed his feelings for me; how he loved me and loved the time we were spending together. I told him I felt the same. So since then we been a couple.

Here’s the other kicker. I have 2 children from my previous marriage. He knows about them. We talked about him meeting them sometime down the road. I was thinking around 6 months? I don’t know an actually time frame on how people introduce their significant other to their children after a relationship/divorce? He feels like he would be okay meeting them, but is scared. Which I can completely understand where he’s coming from. He’s never dated anyone with kids, much less have experience with them. This is my first relationship since my ex-husband as well.

The past few weeks I’ve been pulling away from him for many reasons. I’m not from the state I’m currently in, but from Wyoming. My oldest was born there and I’ve been feeling an urge, or pull to go back out there for years now. I actually have the means to just go back now. But I’ve been pulling away from Jay because I’m worried when the time comes he does meet my children, it might not be something he’d be ready for. He’s back in school for a second degree, still lives at home and I’m worried even though as much as we have feelings for each other that its not going to go any where. I want to have a better life in my home state, though there are pros and cons to where I’m at and moving back that I’m still trying to sort out. We both talked about futures together and how we see each other in them, even talked about my kids in them even though he hasn’t met them yet. But I want to leave here. Could I possibly be throwing away a love that would last to move across country back to a happier life I once had?

Right now we talked about just focusing on us as a couple. But this is eating at me. My oldest is about to start school in the fall and I have a short amount of time to figure out what I’m going to do. Like I said earlier, there are pros and cons I’m weighing out on staying here or moving away.