Dear brav3:

You wrote that

* You were “led to believe,” Why was she doing the leading? Better you lead what you believe.

* “I didn’t notice…” Better you notice, pay attention.

* “Chose to ignore”- Better not ignore. What you ignore will come back to bite you in the…

* “I was in…love”- better once in a while get out from being in it, stand to the side of it and look at it from there.

* “Maybe I don’t understand people”- Understanding people is not a possession that you have or not. It is something you learn through effort and skill, and time, curiosity and … being open to different possibilities.

How will you know next time? By noticing, not ignoring, stepping aside and learning.

Start these things now, where you are and everywhere you go: notice and learn who people are. A romantic relationship has everything to do with who the two people in it are.

anita