Posts by Adrienne Courtney

Adrienne Courtney is a writer and psychology student living in Orlando, Florida. She is passionate about mental health awareness and the part sharing our stories plays in both mental health and overall human connection. Find more of her personal essays at inourfeelings.com.

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Why I Was a People-Pleaser and How I Stopped

“When you say “yes” to others, make sure you aren’t saying “no” to yourself.” ~Paulo Coehlo

For as long as I can remember I have been a people pleaser. I have prided myself on being well-liked, on saying yes and never saying no. I go out of my way for people even when it’s inconvenient for me. I have felt proud that a skill of mine is accommodating people so much so that I am needed. I avoid conflict; I make the jokes. I am happiest when I feel like people are happy with me.

For some time, this …