Posts by Holly-Hurban

Holly Hurban has her Ph.D. in Criminal Justice and has published entries in the Law Enforcement Encyclopedia, yet is energized by creative writing. She is trained in contemplative Shambhala Art and Miksang Photography.  Two photos are on exhibit at Dragonfly Gallery at Rosedale in Austin through the holidays. Follow her on Twitter and Fotoblur.

The Difference Between Setting Boundaries and Shutting People Out

“The most important distinction anyone can ever make in their life is between who they are as an individual and their connection with others.” ~Anne Linden

After growing up in a household with extremely loose emotional boundaries, I soon learned the importance of establishing my own personal boundaries as quickly and clearly as possible. And, in recent years, I have even managed to become more eloquent about when and how to set them.

I grew up in a home with my grandmother, mother, and older sister. Grandmother was an immigrant from Hungary who came to America right after WWI. Her …