Feel Happy and Stress-Free: 7 Simple Tips to Stay in the Now

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“No yesterdays are ever wasted for those who give themselves to today.” ~Brendan Francis

Anyone can be mindful for a moment or two, but developing your mindfulness muscle means that you have to take things to a higher level.

In today’s world it’s all too easy to get distracted from what’s truly important. Wherever you go, and whatever you do, you see messages designed to get you to perform a specific action and distract you from the fact that you are already whole.

There are no reminders to be mindful unless we create them.

The responsibility is in your hands. Staying in the present moment can dramatically reduce stress, increase your happiness, and give you bursts of insight that might change your life.

Ever since I’ve started becoming aware of my thoughts and staying in the now, my life has improved significantly, and I know yours will, too.

Here are a few down-to-earth tips on how to become more mindful:

1. Notice your tendencies.

You and I, we both have our unique tendencies that distract us from the present moment. I’m a worrier, so I tend to think about the future and try to solve problems before they even happen.

What are your tendencies? What kind of thoughts tend to rob you of the now?

These questions will help you become more mindful about what is going on in your head, which in turn leads to mindfulness.

A few examples of tendencies that are very common are:

  • anxiety
  • worry
  • regret
  • guilt
  • fear
  • pleasure seeking

A great tip is to write down your tendencies and how they tease you out of the now. Grab a piece of pen and paper, and just do it.

2. Practice acceptance.

Once you start becoming mindful of your tendencies, it’s crucial that you don’t judge yourself. Practice acceptance and embrace who you are.

The tendencies you have are there for a reason. They are signposts pointing to the areas of your life that need attention.

If you’re a chronic worrier, you need to start noticing whenever you begin drifting to the future. Become mindful, observe your thoughts, and breathe.

We believe our thoughts to be the authority on life, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Our thoughts are just thoughts.

3. Focus on your breath.

Your breath is a powerful and simple way to anchor yourself in the present moment. Whenever you are having a hard time staying in the now, take deep breaths, and focus on your breathing.

You could even count your breaths. Something I like to do is count to four on the inhale and four on the exhale.

It focuses the logical part of my brain on counting and allows me to focus on my breath. After a while I can release the crutch of counting and just be.

4. Question your thoughts.

Your thoughts aren’t always right. In fact, they are rarely right, especially if they make you feel bad.

Question your thoughts constantly. When you start to feel negative emotions, use it as a reminder to examine what thoughts are causing the commotion.

Most people walk around all day letting negative thoughts cause negative feelings. We both know that nothing good can come out of this.

It takes discipline to be mindful, but the rewards are peace and happiness. Even researchers are discovering the power of emotions. Negative emotions not only have the power to make you feel bad, but can affect your physical health as well.

Whenever a negative thought arises, take a step back, and look at if the thought is true.

5. Use reminders.

Another great way to stay anchored in the now is to use reminders. It can be as simple as tying a white string around your wrist.

Each time you look at the white string, you are reminded of the present moment. Are you in the now, or are you somewhere else?

There are no limits to what you can use as a reminder. If you want to take this even further, you can add a new reminder each week.

Start using external reminders such as red cars, billboards, and so on. If you keep doing this, you will be astonished at the results.

6. Be determined.

Increasing the time you spend in the present moment can be a lot of work. If you’re serious about becoming more mindful, you have to be determined.

There will be times when you feel like you want to throw in the towel. You will face challenges, obstacles, and problems.

But if you’re determined, you will get through them. They are nothing but teachers on your path.

When you make becoming more mindful one of your main goals, you simply cannot fail.

7. Follow your passion.

I have noticed that the more I follow my passion and my hearts deepest desire, the more I am able to stay in the now.

I enjoy every second of every minute when I’m working on something I love. My heart buzzes with joy and I feel amazing.

Writing is one of my passions. I love helping people improve their life. It makes me come alive, and it keeps me in the present moment.

Inspiration flows effortlessly, and it’s almost like I am channeling someone else as I am writing. Find your passion and go after it.

Becoming more mindful is done step-by-step. You do not have to go all-in. You only have to increase the amount of time you spend in the present moment each and every day.

If you do that, it’s impossible for you not to become a mindfulness master.

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  • Karen

    you are amazing. I love reading your things every day. They are helping me grow. Especially as I am now courageous enough to add meditation to my practice……..

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  • Nhmutawa

    Thank you, very helpful points to stay present

  • Beautiful post!

    Thank you!

  • Anonymous

    Fantastic article, Henri. I’m glad I stumbled upon it tonight! You nailed all the things that help me stay ‘present.’ I recall a quote that I believe I read from Lori, something along the lines of ‘be where your feet are’ which I think of often in order to stop my mind from wandering to those bad places.

  • I agree with the option no1. i want to thanks for the great tips sharing with us..

  • Nice helping tips define to get a relax life.

    thanks for sharing.

    Stress Relief

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  • mark steers

    Thank you for the great set of tips for increasing mindfulness.  I especially liked the tip/concept of using external reminders for ‘checking in’ – –  like . . . red cars, etc. .  Adding a new reminder each week or so, sounds like fun AND a wonderful way to make progress.   I am going to give it a try!

  • Lv2terp

    This is a wonderful article, thank you!!!!

  • glad to have read this,very helpful,and so simple,clever,

    eckhart tolle would be pleased,well done.

  • Siena

    Thank you for the article! It made me realize the things I need to work on.
    I’m a worrywart and I stress over little things – things that I can’t control.  Everything has to be in line or else it makes me an unhappy.  I always worry about what’s going to happen.  I just can’t live in the now so this article will be a reminder for me to live a stress free life.
    I printed it out so it will be a constant reminder for me.  I’d like to be more relaxed and laid back person and this will help me achieve my goals.

    Thank you so much!

  • Chantaedennis

    I really like this..


  • karen

    I just look into this my stress is causing a lot of health problems I need help. I need a partner. I need to talk to someone to help with this problem

  • Jwolf

    Wonderful and helpful article! Thanks.

  • will

    Great…Great…Great…Advice. I had a wonderful day exercising my mindfulness muscle. What a wonderful day. Thank you

  • Vanessa

    I feel relieved when I read this..I think if I can do this, the stress in my life will be lessen..thank you so much..

  • JIN

    I’ve been living like this for years and I love it.

  • rose

    I love this i hope it helps me im a mother of 3 who needs me to be there for them and i want to be there when they need me

  • Archimedes Bayquen

    Thank you Henri for sharing your thoughts. Let me commence practicing them.

  • Wahi Fatima

    Henry, I enjoyed your article and this is really helpful. 🙂 I tried it for a day and it really worked. Keep on sharing good things and I appreciate you for helping people around! 🙂

  • kavin paker

    This post and the comments have helped me tremendously in deciding what’s right for me.
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  • sounds incredibly hard….it is worth a try. Article appreciated

  • Nohzat

    Fantastic, Hanri thanks for shareing 🙂

  • labhc chandel

    it was really great piece of advice that i will try to imbibe in my daily life style

  • Isis

    Question your thoughts. So what should one do if one steps back, looks at the thought and it is true?

  • Aman khan

    Past 2 months a ago my stress level is very high please help me how to reduce the stress if i get normal cold fever or gas problem i feel scared and my stress level will be very high because of that i fell very uneasy giddiness scared to go out…i don’t feel to talk to anyone just feel sleepy all the time…..please give me some tips so that i can be in a better life…i think lot for small ressons

  • Singh

    I think the reason why we are all so stressful is because the environment which we live in as turned into overly materialistic. I remember my mother used to tell me back in the old days people used to live simple, pure life. As in no luxuries, no desires, just pure and simple. The greatest things to tackle stress is, to let go of the past peacefully and happily, second, accept what you have and what you can’t have right way to say it is stop craving and stop the greed, then naturally you will love your life no matter what. People back home used to live all in one houses like families even if the house was little there was more joy more happiness more success. Now luxury cars, big mansions, and greed for money money and money…….that is why more cruelty in the world now and selfishness. People are starting to think of themselves only and ignore their own loved ones and friends.

  • Artemis H.

    Nice article i must admit that it helped me finding my self out of a stressful situation ,keep inspiring people out of your writing

  • Marianela Pereyra

    Brilliant tips =) I really like the part about mindful breathing because that’s how I do it. I spare a minute to just focus on breathing – it really calms my mind. Going out for a small walk and breathe some fresh air can be do a great deal to tackle stress.

  • manoj

    Thanks for the article. It helped me a lot to chase my dream. Now i understood how to use time to reach our goals…

  • Henrycolpk

    I am an angry middle age man who is in turmoil mentally at the moment. Everything is bad, I am reacting to everything. My wife has said that the people in the building have had enough of my shouting. I just googled “anger, negativity and getting happier’ and this gem of an article came up. Serendipity methinks.