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Giveaway and Author Interview: Patience by Allan Lokos

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The Winners:

Patience is one of those qualities we aspire to possess, but sometimes struggle to embody. We associate patience with goodness—and for good reason, since patience enables us to be loving and supportive to others.

But patience is also a fundamental building block of happiness. It just plain hurts to feel harried, stressed, rushed, and eager to get there—whether it’s a physical space or a state of being.

This is something I know all too well, as I’ve often felt pushed by this subconscious internal need to do things quickly and perfectly, which just exacerbates my anxiety, since this translates into a lack of patience with myself.

It’s something I work at, which is why I was excited to read Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living, by Allan Lokos.

The founder and guiding teacher of The Community Meditation Center in New York City, Allan Lokos has studied and practiced meditation for nearly two decades. In his insightful book, Lokos provides gentle encouragement and practical tools to step back, slow down, and foster a sense of equanimity.

I highly recommend Patience to anyone who feels easily annoyed, angered, and stressed, and to those who want to deepen their existing mindfulness practice.

The Giveaway

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The Interview

1. In the beginning of Patience, you wrote about what inspired you to write this book. Can you tell us about that?

Like so many others, I’ve experienced the suffering caused by moments of impatience and outbursts of anger, both my own and that of others. I also have a deep appreciation of the ancient wisdom teachings on patience; it is one of the paramis, or “perfection” practices taught by the Buddha. But there seemed to be little offered in contemporary literature.

The actual moment of inspiration came when a friend said, “Just about every mistake I have ever made and every unkind word I have ever spoken might have been avoided if I had been more patient.” I thought it was an extraordinary statement and I knew it was true for me as well.

2. As someone who has been working on my patience a great deal, I highlighted numerous sections in your book! One such section reads, “Anger, annoyance, and impatience deplete energy. Patient effort strengthens our resources.” Can you expand on that?

I think that the depletion of energy that goes with impatience, anger, and annoyance is familiar to most of us. There is usually a great deal of frustration that accompanies situations in which things are not going the way we would like.

That frustration and unhappiness are debilitating. Therefore, developing a depth of patience is an obvious antidote to that depletion of energy. Note, however, that there is a significant difference between skills that help us deal with impatience once it has arisen, and developing patience so that impatience has much less chance to arise.

That level of patience takes effort and determination to develop. The good news is that it doesn’t require a great deal of time each day but it does take motivation, courage, and honesty.

3. Early on, you explained that using techniques to get through a challenging situation without completely losing it is not true patience. I found this fascinating, as I’ve often found myself counting in my head or taking deep breaths to get through difficult times. How would you define true patience?

It not so much a matter of definition as it is concept.

Once you are counting to ten or reminding yourself to take a few deep breaths you are already experiencing impatience. Skills such as deep breathing and counting are invaluable and can help prevent a disaster.

True patience, as a practice, is the ability to sense the arising of impatience or anger at its very inception and to be mindful of the fact that these are feelings. There is no need to act on every feeling that arises. In fact it would be unwise and exhausting.

This kind of skill takes wisdom, awareness, and practice because our usual response is to try to change the external circumstances that we feel are the causes of our annoyance or impatience.

Perhaps, in some instances, it would be wise and compassionate to make changes in external conditions, but the place to look first is within one’s self. Then we are much more likely to act wisely, patiently, and compassionately.

4. You also wrote, “…impatience with self can easily become a type of self-hatred.” What’s a simple practice we can adopt to become more patient with ourselves?

Again, the place to look is within. Those of us who meditate regularly can see how we speak to ourselves. Are we kind and loving or are we harsh and critical?

No one is more deserving of your love and tenderness than you are yourself. That may be difficult for some to accept in our society, but I strongly recommend considering this truth.

5. In the section on relationships, you explored some of the inevitable challenges we face when become emotionally intimate with someone else. What would you say is the biggest obstacle to patience in relationships, and how can start to overcome it?

I’m hesitant to try to single out one biggest obstacle but I think that working on one’s self goes a long way toward developing meaningful relationships. Working on skillful speech and deep listening will go a long way in making you a magnificent partner.

6. You explained that society views kindness as a secondary quality, below aggression, ambition, and toughness—and that some members of your family have expressed that they’d rather be feared than liked. Why do you think many people feel this way?

There can certainly be a time and place for ambition and other aggressive qualities. I think hard work, vision, and creativity are admirable traits. We just want to be aware of the suffering caused by grasping and clinging.

I wonder if we are somewhat afraid to be seen as kind because we might be viewed as weak and spineless. To be kind and compassionate is not to be a doormat. Qualities such as compassion, patience, and equanimity are the ground of wisdom because it is these qualities that help see things as they really are.

7. You shared quite a few “profiles in patience” in your book. Was there one story that resonated with you most strongly, and why?

I quickly came to love the people profiled in the book but I was probably moved mostly by Michael Naranjo. Michael was blinded and lost the use of most of his right hand in the Vietnam war, yet he went on to become a world renowned sculptor.

He has become a treasured friend whom I enjoy being with because of his good cheer, intelligence, honesty, and courage. He is always experiencing physical pain and never complains. He is also an extraordinary artist.

8. In the section titled, “At the Water Cooler,” you referenced research that reveals many people are not happy in their work situations. What advice would you offer someone who is trying to improve their professional situation, but feels impatient with that process—and carries that with them every day?

The reality of the current global economic condition is that many people who, in a different time might have been able to find a more satisfying work situation, simply cannot right now and perhaps not for some time. Therefore, the only meaningful change that can be made may be in one’s perspective.

I know this is easy to say and not necessarily easy to do, but it may be the best option. Look deeply to see if there is another way to view your circumstance. There usually is. Let your heart open and allow yourself to experience beginner’s mind.

9. In your research, what have you found are the situations in which people most frequently lose their cool—and how can we avoid that?

The most frequently reported cause of impatience was when people felt they were not being heard. Next was when they were tired or hungry. Fatigue and hunger are pretty easy to address: get more rest and eat properly. The sense of not being heard (or seen) is more challenging.

I would start by looking within to see if something is being touched that I can examine within myself. Next consider the possibility that you are being heard but the other person simply disagrees. Finally, you might address the situation at the right time and place by saying “I feel as if I’m not being heard. I’d like to go over that point again.”

10. At the end of your book, you wrote a brief section titled “Patience as a Way of Life.” Can you briefly summarize what that would look like?

Patience as a way of life has a feeling of equanimity that is vibrant and alive. We are not thrown by the constant ups and downs of life. Joy is easy to come by and decisions are made with wisdom and compassion. There is much more, but that would be a darn good start.

Learn more about Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living on Amazon.


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About Lori Deschene

Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha and Recreate Your Life Story, an online course that helps you let go of the past and live a life you love. Her latest bookTiny Buddha's Gratitude Journal, which includes 15 coloring pages, is now available for purchase. For daily wisdom, follow Tiny Buddha on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram..

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  • Sebove

    I would love this book!

  • niki’m

    Ooh my first ever comment on a blog! I accidentally stumbled on this website and the word patience certainly caught my attention… Not something I have been blessed with 🙁 I’m intrigued to learn more!

  • Maria

    As a beginner but frequent visitor, it would be wonderful to receive this book and continue on my path to self discovery!

  • Deanna

    I would love to win a copy of this – looks like it would be perfect for my life right now.
     

  • Patience is something I am constantly working on in my own life…patience to see what God’s plan is for me rather than trying to control, control, control everything around me.  I’d love to win this book!

  • Lv2terp

    Can’t wait to read it!! Thank you for this post and interview!! 🙂 Patience is high on my list to continue to improve upon! 🙂

  • Mikaii

    Patience is something I feel I am always working on; both In relationships and overall life. It is such a simple concept but such a challenge to practice all the time. I also do the counting/breathing! Thanks for asking the author that question Lori! Great interview!

  • Andrea

    “Patience as a way of life has a feeling of equanimity that is vibrant and alive. ” Thank you for making this connection for me…patience is like equanimity…yes! I feel like I am often reactive rather than just observing what is happening…its a daily practice. I would love to read this and learn more. Thanks!

  • Anne Marie 831

    Loved this article, and would love the book! Patience is definately something I’m always working on. Its so hard for me.

  • Melodyangel

    I would love to have and read this book!
    Blessings and Namaste’
    From
    Debra J Webb

  • Lakshmimurali

     Patience! The whole world could do with it. Lori, great interview! My father who became totally blind when he was in his thirties, practiced patience every moment. His other wonderful quality was a total lack of self pity.We never heard him say
    “why me?”. He lived until he was 82 !
     I read the reviews for the book on Amazon. All are very impressive. Thanks for such a thoughtful post.

  • Melpar

    This book sounds amazing and one I so need to read.  I am not sure how Tiny Buddha does it but you always seem to know what to say to me when I need to hear it!

  • Donna@Gardens Eye View

    a great lesson I am still learning-patience…looking forward to this book

  • Patience is definitely a trait I do not possess!  Would love to read this book.

  • @CplStot

    YAY! This book could definitely be useful to me!  ~bow~

  • Làura

    Patience being one of my life lessons at the moment.   Can’t wait to read the book!  🙂  

  • Oh, how I have prayed for peace. It is work but boy great if you can get there! Thanks for sharing this interview.

  • Nicquiroz

    I would absolutely love to win a copy of this book.  I am in serious need of practicing patience. 

  • Mamawilliams

    Looking forward to reading this!! 🙂
    Thank you!

  • Jennifer Voegele

    As a mother of 2 teenager boys, patience is something I strive for everyday. Most people think teenage girls are the only ones that go through a change and struggle in life. However, boys do, too. Having patience and teaching patience, especially for young men is so important. I look forward to this read. Thanks, Lori for sharing.

  • Alixandrea Corvyn

    Great article, and this looks like a wonderful book.  I have major issues with patience and would really love to become more relaxed about my life; it never seems to move fast enough in the right direction!  Thank-you for writing this, I think it’s sorely needed in this day and age.

  • KARINA

    i believe patience is one of the most underrated and most important virtues a person could posses. like you mentioned in the article, patience is the starting point to a life of peace, happiness, fulfillment and love. it’s the cornerstone of all things wonderful.

    karina

  • Joskin23

    I need this book…ha! Seriously, though as a stay at home mama of two little sweeties, I could use down more patience training! Basically, how to keep my cool under trying situations….and not dump my ‘stuff’ on my kids.

  • Cqphotography

    my goodness, I need this book….i think much of my restlessness/unhappiness is related to my lack of patience. 🙁

  • Jedidad

    I need it too!!  I am glad I am not the only one out there that needs it. 

  • Jeet

    This is THE book for me. Patience is what I personally have the hardest time with cultivating, and could use all the help that is out there. 😛

  • Sheila

    Patience is a virtue indeed. It does not come easy and perhaps that is precisely why patience teaches us things…a lot of things we need to learn. Especially, in this fast-paced “instant” world we live in. I think, as we age, we learn more about what it is to be patient and how to get there – to be present in every single moment and learning to just “be”…which can be trying! I am a type-A personality so this book has a lot to teach me. I could really use a good read like this book. Sounds like the perfect one for me to be reading right now. Patience patience patience. I want to learn how to expand my capacity to be more patient. 

  • Sounds like a good book to me. I need to hurry up and read it quickly… 🙂

  • mindful searcher

    It is significant that patience is the first characteristic of love that St. Paul lists in I Corinthians 13. Thanks for the great post.

  • Litsa Mortensen

    As a graduate student my life is so hectic that it can seem impossible sometimes to slow down, even in my personal life. Cultivating patience could lead me to a calmer place overall which would in turn help my academic life instead of constantly feeling this rush of “GO, GO, GO!” all the time!

  • meagburnt

    If I had the patience, I would love to read this book

  • I could really use this as my job tests my patience on a daily basis.  🙂

  • Mtsnwpu

    As a parent of three small children I feel patience is essential to raising well balanced children.  Thank-you for you insight:)

  • i could use this as a student who leads a semi stressful life and a meditation begginner..

  • I am grateful, thank you

  • Patience is a skill to be practiced every, single day. The most difficult is being mindful of my lack of patience with myself. Thank you for the article.

  • Mrsmorbxfx

    i REALLY could  use this book, my life is soo hectic raising a family , and getting a business up and going..winning this book would be amazing and it would be very useful. good luck to everyone
     

  • This sounds like a good book. Even if I don’t win, I would probably buy it as a gift for some people.

  • Jason Eli

    wow this looks like a really great book.  🙂 thanks for sharing! take care! 

  • Siriuslyheather

    I will wait patiently for my copy to arrive 😉

  • LB

    I work from home with two small toddlers.  I know that patience with my children is of the upmost importance, but yet it is so hard to practice all the time.  I continue to work on finding peace in my life…

  • Marilyn

    One of my ongoing challenges!

  • i’ve always thought of myself as patient but lately i feel like i’m running low on patience. RTing 🙂

  • Breezy

    This book sounds perfect right about now. Thanks for all you do, Lori. Peace….. and patience. ♥

    Kim K

  • Ginanmt_67

    This book sounds wonderful. I have struggled with impatience and attachment to external circumstances and emotions my whole life. I can’t seem to find a way out of the incessant ruminations. Most books leave me still at a loss. I’m in some financial hardship now. I hope to win a copy of this magnificent book so I can benefit right away. Thank you very much

  • Charlieedstrom

    In an age where we hear messages all around, telling us do things better faster cheaper, this book sounds like the missing element to finding the balance. If I don’t win it is certainly on my todo list.

  • Barb

    I would love to win this book. Going through some MAJOR life changes and patience is one thing I could learn more about. Peace.

  • Angie

    It sounds like this book is something my soul could benefit from!  I desperately need more peace and happiness (patience) in my life and I hope this book will help me get there.  My family would agree  🙂 

  • Liz

    As a mother of two active and intelligent boys I am constantly challenged to keep my patience. I find myself in escalating situations where I can feel my patience dissipating, and I don’t know how to regain it. Worse is the feeling after I’ve gotten angry that I feel like a bad mother for having lost my patience.

  • This book sounds amazing and so beneficial. I would love to read it!

  • Phong Co

    Very interested in this book. I agree that many of the unwise & unkind things I’ve said and done have been due to lack of patience.

  • Kefyn

    Serendipidous timing.

  • Eva Santorini

    I’ve said and done some things recently that I really regret. Hindsight’s always 20/20… if I’d just been more patient I would have had a chance to calm down, thus dealing with things differently and saving myself a lot of hurt. There’s nothing I can do to change the past, but what I can do is improve myself and hope that the next chapter of my life is better than the last.

  • Lesa

    Each year I choose a few words that feel like they are important to focus on, ones which will be guideposts or guard rails….this year the words were “restraint” and “patience.”  Leading with my chin, reacting too quickly and saying or doing too much had lost their efficacy.  I kept finding my way into trouble, digging deep holes, faster and faster, so this year I have slowed down, practiced waiting, and having a measured reasonable response.  It has helped in many situations, but it is a hard practice for me, given that I have decades of impatience and over-reaction behind me.  It has been an important shift, and I would love to read the author’s take on patience.

  • LS

    This is something I’ve been struggling with for years. It definitely sounds like a great read. Thanks, Lori, for sharing this with us!

  • Chris Burch

    Thank you for this post. I have just placed a hold on this book in my local library system. I patiently await its arrival!

  • Swalshwest

    Patience and quieting your thoughts are lessons frequently overlooked today – and yet – they are needed more now than ever before in society –

    the more we crowd each other and live in a dead-line based work environment and economy – the more peace and patience is required to maintain kindness and gratitude. 

  • Brittanyx2748

    I need this in my life!

  • This seems like a really useful book. Thanks for the interview.

  • My father was the most patient person I’ve ever met. I’ve always strived to be more like him. I felt tears well up when I read in #10 your description of a truly patient person…. so much like my Dad.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts and ideas in this interview, Allan. Your book sounds like something the world needs to read.

  • Laurel

    When I became a mom I started to understand what true patience really means! Sounds like a great read with some valuable insights.

  • Emilyteagarden

    Having lost the majority of my patience after the most challenging 2 years of my life,

    I sincerely look forward to reading your book as it’s not a “good thing”  when you usually

    have some patience and realize its gone – – all gone!

    Thank you so much for writing it!

  • Tara P.

    Fascinating interview.  I welcome more patience in my life.  Thank you for the giveaway!  🙂

  • Connie Kindle

    I always thought that I was a patience person until i retired and found my self with so much time, now I seem to want things to hurry up; being married to someone who is not a patience soul can be a challenge.  I feel that the frustration is more not really knowing how to regain my sense of patience.

  • Corey Plante

    It’s amazing how true representations of the virtues are hardly ever how most people conceive of them. I don’t think I’ll ever look at Patience in the same way again!

  • Yvettep

    Omg patience
    I see the lack of it mostly around me and it is really soul destroying
    No patience especially with old people, animals and kids, these are the ones who have less say in society and which we should have more patience with

    Yvette x

  • HeatherD

    I would really like the opportunity to study this book.Many thanks.

  • Carol

    Having just experienced an interrupted airline trip and seeing how impatience wears people down, I was astounded to find I possessed the patience to let go of frustration/anger over what I could not change.

  • Sswdemo

    This sounds fascinating and just what I’m needing at this time. Thank you!

  • Allison

    As I wait for my baby to arrive on its own time, I need PATIENCE more than ever!!

  • Tracy

    Patience is something that I have learned comes from many years of experience. As you grow so does your patience. I look forward to learning more about different ways I can use my patience :>) Thank you

  • Harmonycollins

    Patience is a constant struggle… This book looks good:)

  • revashby

    On the day of my ordination I asked for two things; one being wisdom and the other patience. I keep reminding myself that I asked for the lessons that followed.

    E. L. Ashby

  • Gurjeet Kaur

    I want this book right now, I have no PATIENCE to wait for it!

  • Kabuslu

    Love the eat and rest comment – to increase patience.  In our busy world, we can ignore our body and our needs to easily with a mind in high gear,  Loving self – always helps us love our neighbor. 

  • Lynn4MK

    Count me among the many who need more patience & would like a copy of this book!

  • Dean James

    I would love to have this book! I will prove that I will attempt to improve my patience by taking the risk that if I don’t win it in this life, well I will borrow it from a Library in the next……

  • Melissa

    Looks like a good read! It’s definitely going on my list 🙂 Top of the list, too, if I win a free copy!

  • Ikspsych

    This commentary was truly interesting and I look forward to reading the book.  As a relatively new explorer of meditation and mindfulness, I am glad to add another stepping stone along my way to achieving a centered and peaceful life.  Patience and acceptance of what is are both necessities for developing a life that is open and joyful. 

  • Row_xvi

    Inhale…exhale… Deep breaths are usually what I do whenever I feel anxious and impatient. However, I still feel like my body is going tense when impatience takes over. Most of the time the cause of my impatience is when my expectations regarding schedules and time are not met. I do agree that awareness and letting go are ways that would really help one become more patient. Thank you tiny buddha! As always 😀

  • David M Degroot

    Sounds like a good read….hope to win!

  • L_deats

    Patience is a life long journey and learning exercise.

  • jayme

    I feel irritable, easily angered and sad for no apparent reason.  A lot.  And I am the mom of 2 young kids and have 3 part time jobs, so I rush around a lot.  Perhaps all of my impatience is creating this disharmony?   I need this book!

  • Dianne*29

    Being  patient brings great things you have been waiting for.. so don’t rush the journey!

  • Patience is something I struggle with personally. It’s unusual, but I am impatient to change and progress. It feels awful to wait for personal growth, but the time to grow is necessary.

  • Nicola

    i truly struggle with the concept of patience ..i find the time waiting for life to evolve at its own pace makes me nervous and scared…this is truly something i feel i could benefit from..thanks for providing information about this book:)
    nicola

  • junebug

    i think everyone needs a little more patience.  I would like to learn more from this book!

  • Anna

    I’m a pretty patient person, but I find that I am less tolerable when I’m in pain. I have a joint condition that needs daily management. Days when I’m in more pain than usual I have to remind myself of how edgy I get and to pay close attention to how I react and interact with others.

  • Em Jacobs

    I’be been working on my patience in a relationship but seems like I have more patience than he does but only to a point. I have also changed my perspective on my work situation. I enjoy my job, don’t hate it, but as I start going back to school and am working on starting my business my mind wanders during work to school and the biz. I’m anxious to get the other new things going on in my life but work is still important. Having a different attitude at work, more positive all the time, makes the days of daydreaming more tolerable.

  • I definitely could use this book, especially when it comes to parenting.  

  • Lisa :)

    Lori, It never fails….each and EVERY single DAY…your posts have something to do with my life.  Today you literally hit me on the head, slapped me across the face and punched me in my stomach.  All is good though.  I look so forward to your email in the morning, that I believe I’ve become a bit addicted!!!!!! You’re amazing.  Thank you for being YOU, and sharing yourself with us (and Me!).  I’d like to be entered in the GiveAway also, if you don’t mind.  I am a very proud owner of your book, and I’d love this to add to my (New Me-Collection).  Much Love and Peace.   Lisa <3

  • Debbie B.

    This sounds like a wonderful book. I have been working on being mindful in each moment and find it challenging, exhilarating, and surprising at every turn.

  • Yogesh J

    This is so true. I am learning the art, and it holds true on so many levels… almost everything in your life.

  • Rose

    I would love to get a copy of this book for my son who is going through a very troubled time in his life and patience is the very foundational skill he needs in order to build other life skills on top.

  • I was told, “Patience yields good things!”, when I was a child. Words to live by…for self and toward others.  In time, all things will come…but being present to the moment and in the moment is the biggest gift you can give to yourself and others.  The chatter in your head will cease…and the calm and gentleness that takes over your spirit and soul will give you much peace.  ~Namaste

  • I shall patiently await to see who receives the books…

  • Heidi

    I have been experiencing somes ups and downs in life with work and my fiancé’s health. I am trying to be calm and patient with everyone so I try my hardest to stay consistent with yoga, meditation, and running to keep stress a minimum. I still experience some moments of uncontrollable emotions and nights without sleep. I know I just need to be patient to see how things will work out but I have issues with lack of control. I would love to see what insights this book has for me. Namaste 🙂

  • Aimee Llewellyn

    Book sounds awesome! 

  • pippaj

    I so connect with getting impatient when I feel I am not being heard…

  • samkc89

    When working with young children, patience isn’t simply a virtue, it is a necessity. Could be great gifts for teachers!

  • Laurel

    Patience is a virtue!

  • Kira

    I loved the questions and thoughts on #3 and #4.  I think about patience with self a lot.  As a mom and teacher, I’m really looking forward to reading this book.  The cover is beautiful and peaceful.

  • vegan baker

    im gonna start applying now. i am most impatient when it feels like im trapped or powerless in my life situations because of finances.

  • charlyne_e

    I’ve read before that when we are being impatient with our relationships, or whatever is going on in our lives, we are resisting how things are. Patience helps bring about mindfulness – something I think we are all looking for here.

  • Linda H.

    I’d like to learn more about section 2 above.  I love the cover design also.

  • Nupur

    Lovely interview. It resonated with me because I struggle to be more patient. So true that just eating well and getting rest can improve patience and quality of life.

  • Bgk33

    Wise words.

  • Simplysinglemom

    As a single mom in a freelance job i’m constantly struggling with patience on many levels. Great questions and answers

  • Beijing

    This is something I need right now in my life! PATIENCE

  • helicopter mom

    I was barely patient enough to scroll down to post my comment.  I think the book might help…

  • Pam

    I continue to be delighted by how the message I most need magically appears at the right time. I am now encouraged to be patient in a 360 degree manner. That is, patient in all things, with all beings, including this person I call me. 

  • Deanna

    I am really bad with patience now. I had a brain stem hemmorhagic stroke 2 1/2 years ago and it has been a struggle. When my doctors told me to try to live a normal life, I was like now how is that going to happen? There’s nothing normal about my life now. I clearly cannot do some of the things I used to do, but I am doing some things that require me to slow down more and yes be patient in doing them. I am still dealing with the anger issues of having my life changed, although I am grateful to be alive… it’s an ongoing struggle and having a sense of humor and trying to stay on the positive side is hard at its best! Thank you for sharing this with us… it takes courage to share such intimate details of ones life.

  • Mae

    Patience is something a co-worker and I were just talking about last week! I feel like I’m really impatient. If someone makes me late to an event or meeting it can put a damper on the whole experience. I definitely need some work in this area.

  • Cathe

    Lori,  This sounds like a great book. I would love to read it.
    Thanks for the opportunity.
    Cathe

  • Lumevita

    Thank you for your blog, Patience is exactly what I need to practice.

  • Lisamgomes

    I. Need this book badly. I’ve always said I wasn’t patient enough to wait in line when “patience” was being handed out at birth. I have a ton of thing I am dealing with personally and I know I would enjoy this book and learn from it also. If I’m not chosen, I have it on my wish list. However, again patience????? I’d love it now so I can begin my process. Thank you for your kindness and generosity. Happy 4th, relax and enjoy. 🙂

  • AnnaBeth

    Timely advice for me personally. And something I will pass along to those I love. We all could use a good injection of patience into our daily lives. Thank you for sharing this.

  • Kjcarr74

    I first began practicing patience while waiting in lines at the grocery store, coffee shop, etc. I took Rhonda Byrne’s advice and repeated to myself, “I have all the time in the world.” Then I began chatting with people in line. Now I feel much more peaceful waiting for long periods.

  • Nancy Duong

    I want this book in my life.

  • Ldyxclusive

    Seems like its going to be great! Patience is the main key to be successful in life! 

  • Trickygoose@hotmail.com

    I need to develop patience like I need air to breathe.
    I will likely purchase this book if I’m not lucky enough to win one.

  • kcc

    sounds great,  and a help for many of us!  i do hope to win a copy.

  • Jodie

    Please please please I want this book, sounds fantastic

  • Meatpattie

    If it should happen to come my way I shall be so grateful. It will be a blessing to whoever receives it.

  • Kirayoung79

    Sounds like a great book…something everyone would benefit from.

  • This book sounds very interesting.  I always thought I was a patient person, except behind the wheel, but I see that just because I don’t blow up doesn’t mean I’m patient. Thank you Lori for bringing great articles and books to help us live more thoughtfully.

  • StrelkaSputnik

     Is patience a virtue  and how can it be expereinced? I am intrigued to find out.

  • This book sounds amazing. If I don’t win a copy, I will definitely be purchasing one. This is something I have long struggled with, but often ignore, as I’m not sure exactly how to tackle it. My lack of patience with myself and those around me cause me to have a constant high level of anxiety, which in turns decreases my patience. A viscious cycle.

  • Meagan

    ultimate paradox: I always say, I can’t wait until I can start meditating again. This book sounds like such an important perspective on a potential life-long personal journey.
    Thank you!

  • Charmaine

    Ah, patience. Sounds like a book written specifically for me! 🙂

  • Carolynk

    People have told me that I am a patient person, but I don’t think so.  They cannot see me on the inside.

  • Scigal35

    Thank you for writing about such an important and overlooked value! 

  • JustKWu

    “I highly recommend Patience to anyone who feels easily annoyed, angered, and stressed, and to those who want to deepen their existing mindfulness practice.” << Sounds like me. I could definitely use a little more Patience in my life.

  • Jeanette

    It is a book that everyone should read as it has a lot to teach us.

  • Angela

    I’ve struggled my whole life trying to learn patience.  What a marvel to have someone share what it takes to make patience possible.

  • Valerie

    This sounds like a really thought-provoking book.

  • Lady in Waiting

    For the first time in my life I am not wanting to know what’s coming next. Have I mastered the art of patience or just worn out by waiting?

  • Lesquit

    I believe patience walks hand in hand with love and gratitude.

  • Xiao Long

    This book was made for me, methinks.

  • Debbie

    Dear lord this is a must read, it seems! I’d love to receive a copy!

  • Essarcee

    Love the sound of this book….seems to be just what I needed to hear today. Can’t wait to explore it further…