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Think Like a 5-Year-Old to Start Living the Life of Your Dreams

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“Don’t grow up. It’s a trap.” ~Unknown

A little over a year ago, my brother and I decided to write a book together. At the ages of nineteen and twenty-nine, this was a really scary thing for us.

Neither of us considered ourselves “good writers,” and we especially didn’t think highly enough of our writing to imagine that we’d ever write a book.

I made C’s on most of my papers in high school and college and, quite frankly, my confidence in my writing was pretty low.

Each time I tried to sit down and write even a two-to-five-page paper, I would spend countless frustrating hours banging my head against the keyboard and writing all night in an attempt to reach the page limit. For me, writing was an extremely painful process.

I’d made myself believe that I was bad at it. All of the bad grades and papers full of red ink had me convinced that it was a lost cause. They told me I’d never be a good writer.

So when my brother and I decided to write a book, you can imagine all of the thoughts running through my head…

“I’m not a good writer. Why would anyone want to read my book?”

“I can’t even write a three-page paper. How will I ever finish a book?”

“What if nobody buys the book?”

And the list goes on and on. These types of thoughts keep most people from going after their dreams. They keep us paralyzed in fear, afraid to take the first step.

Seth and I had to overcome these insecurities as writers to get started. We pushed past them with childlike curiosity and channeled our inner five-year-olds by asking questions, making mistakes, and reaching out to successful authors for advice.

I’m going to tell you a few things that helped us through these insecurities, but first I want to ask you a question. When’s the last time you truly thought like a five-year old?

You know, thoughts like: “I’m going to be an astronaut one day” or “When I grow up I’m going to be the president.”

As children, we tend to believe that we truly can do anything we want. But a funny thing happens: as you go to school, get a job, and eventually retire, the world’s expectations and beliefs about you shrink your own beliefs.

This process looks a little like this…

Belief Funnel

The things we believed we could accomplish slowly start to melt away and become unfulfilled dreams.

Our dreams of doing humanitarian work in Africa or playing in a band never see their start because we begin listening to others and accept that these things won’t happen.

It’s hard not to listen because many of these people have pure intentions. Some of them are people we love, who love us back, but they have no idea what is possible because it isn’t their dream.

Nevertheless, we follow the path they suggest based on their own beliefs of what is possible. Unfortunately, it can take years, decades, and even a lifetime to realize how our dreams were derailed and why.

Possibilities Funnel

What you can actually do continues to grow, even as your beliefs (what you think you can do) get in the way of that.

So how do you push past your insecurities and start believing in yourself again? How do you take advantage of the endless possibilities available to you when your beliefs about yourself won’t let you take the first step?

1. Start thinking like a five-year-old.

Ignore your doubts and negative feedback from others. Five-year-olds don’t pay attention when someone tells them they might not be a princess and an actress when they grow up. They just keep believing.

When my brother Seth decided he wanted to be a musician, many people around him suggested he try for something more realistic. Despite the insecurities and the extremely small chance of success, he believed in himself and went for it. Now he plays around the world with his band NEEDTOBREATHE.

When you start believing and acting on your five0year-old dreams, there’s a good chance you’ll be surprised by how often they come to life.

2. Be the biggest loser.

The weird thing about our potential is that it often gets hidden. It gets covered up by doubt and by the discouragement we get from others. We often forget our potential exists, and it takes a friend or coach to remind us of it and encourage us to take action.

The NBC show “The Biggest Loser” is a classic example of this principle. Before coming on the show, the contestants fail to lose weight on their own because they lack the willpower, the time and, most importantly, the belief in themselves. After getting on the show and working with trainers, they uncover abilities they never knew existed.

If you’re looking to make a serious change in your life, find a coach or accountability partner to work with. They’ll help you tap into your childlike thinking and uncover beliefs, abilities, and innate talents.

Because of our lack of experience, Seth and I reached out to several successful authors for help and coaching on our book. Reaching out to people you respect can be a scary process, but each time you do it you’ll learn something new.

3. Don’t be so scared of failure.

Many times we quiet our inner five-year-old because of the fear of failure. We fear that if we go for what we actually want, we might fail and look stupid. This was my fear before writing the book.

The best learning moments in life are when we fail. If you never fail, you’ll never make a difference in the world.

Think of the people who you admire the most. How many times do you think they’ve failed in their lives? Probably more than they can remember. These people are successful because they failed early and failed often. They got out there, gave it a shot, and learned with each failure.

Failure means you’re making progress. Don’t be so afraid of it.

When you were five, falling down and pushing yourself back up was an opportunity to build your muscles. You ran to explore possibilities because at worst you would learn something new and get stronger doing it.

If anything is b-o-l-o-g-n-a, it’s forgetting how to run and hope and dream the way we did when we were kids. So next time you’re feeling discouraged or insecure, ask yourself: “What would my inner five-year-old do?”

Editor’s Note: Chandler has generously offered to give away five signed copies of Breaking Out of a Broken System, his new book, co-written with his brother Seth. Each book purchased saves someone’s life through a life-saving malaria pill. Their mission is to save 10,000 lives by selling 10,000 copies.

To enter to win a copy, leave a comment below. You can enter until midnight EST on Monday, March 10th.

UPDATE: The winners for this giveaway have already been chosen. Congrats to M, VictoriaP, Tiffany Joi, Priya, and Alex

Photo by Praveen Kumar

About Chandler Bolt

Chandler Bolt is an author and serial entrepreneur. He was bitten by the entrepreneurial bug at an early age and by age 20 he started and ran businesses that generated over $320,000. He wrote the book Breaking Out of A Broken System with his brother Seth Bolt (from the band NEEDTOBREATHE). Each book sold saves a life (#1book1life).

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  • Kate

    Hi Chandler! I really enjoyed this post and it definitely came at a great time. I’ve been feeling stuck in the belief that all that is left for me to do in life is to get a job, get married and have kids. It is crazy that at 23, I have a ton of ideas and possibilities floating around in my head of a future that I have basically said I can’t achieve because it’s simply impossible. It just seems too late. I’m definitely going to reflect on this article and remind myself that there is no reason to not believe that anything is possible, and to simply say that things are going to go a certain way just because that is just the way they have been going. I have serious dreams of what I want to do with my law degree and I hope that I can “think like a five-year-old” for a moment and realize what I truly want.

    Thank you so much again for this article!

  • Shipra Sharma

    Hi Chandler,

    I was always fascinated by the thought of being a writer and love writing too. This article is a true inspiration to think like a child and imagine no boundaries to achieve what you always wanted to.
    We often get caught up by what the society expects and keep flowing unknowingly that whatever expectations we are trying to fulfil is falling short of what we have always wanted in life.
    So its quite important to have an honest conversation with yourself and do what makes you happy with the will and grit to still keep moving towards our destination.

  • A

    Hi Chandler, after reading what you wrote it greatly inspire me. The article shows that we shouldn’t scare of failures and Use our setback as a form of learning lesson in life. Thankyou for your great article.

  • spiritual dragonfly

    Hi Chandler, inspiring read! I’m going to run with it and work on channeling my inner five year old and move forward with my photography!!!! 🙂

  • Anna Y

    Love your message and love your mission!

  • Kerry Holsinger

    Great read! Maybe it’s time I start that guitar lesson business I’ve always dreamed of…

  • I love your message conveyed in this. Getting in touch with our inner child doesn’t always come around when we need it most. Sometimes we need help and encouragement to break him out. I have a lot of ideas and visions for what I would like to do with my life, but there are quite a few fears of my own that keeps me from starting them. This year, I have made a
    commitment to breaking myself out of this trapped mindset and taking steps
    towards my passions. One day, they could possibly turn into something. Thank
    you for sharing your experiences.

  • skylark

    Great, thought-provoking post; thank you!

  • raChelle

    What a great message! Finding compassion and courage to move forward! This article couldn’t have come at a better time for me – thank you.

  • Ashley Risch

    So simple. Think like a child and let the possibilities flow.

  • Leslie

    Love, love, love the idea of the possibilities funnel! Thank you for helping me to remember that I do have a purpose! I taught Kindergarten for a couple years so I am familiar with thinking like a 5 year old, but not dreaming like one! Very inspiring!

  • Aeris

    Hi Chandler,

    I was just talking about this exact concept last night to a friend. I said, ‘wouldn’t it be wonderful if everyone could believe in themselves like they did when they were kids?’ As children, we have huge dreams and refuse to let anyone tell us differently. If people stayed with that mindset growing up, I think there would be many more happy and fulfilled people in the world.

    Thank you for your post and congratulations on listening to your heart and fulfilling your goal.

  • Mikki Krysa Schmitz

    I think I need this, I’ve forgotten how to have fun.

  • Chandler,

    I think you definitely nailed this. I can’t tell you how often I look to little kids for new inspiration. They are 100% in the moment, full of optimism, and really do believe they can do anything. It’s honestly too bad that we get shot down all the time.

    I think Tim Ferriss explains the high goal setting ideal well in The Four Hour Workweek — my goal isn’t to sell this book, or actually even obtain a four hour workweek — but not many people actually shoot for the stars. There’s almost less competition at the top than there is at the bottom because not many people just go for it.

    I love the bit about falling down so you can get back up and build muscle. That’s a great metaphor that I haven’t really considered. We naturally fall as kids because it makes us stronger. Why not let ourselves make mistakes as adults, so we can build up our strength and resilience?

    Great article. Loved it. Well written.

    Cheers

  • The two illustrations in this post really brought your point home for me. It’s weird that I read this today, just as I was having a self belief meltdown, thinking I’ve bitten off more than I can chew, that I’m burnt out and not good enough. So, thanks man. I hope to read your book someday. It sounds like something I’m really needing.

  • Ugghh me too

  • Sheri Wood

    Hi Chandler, I really appreciated what you posted today, especially the graphics showing the Belief Funnel compared to the Possibilities Funnel drawn with stick figures. How brilliant! I’d never thought of my attitudes being this way, but the images instantly resonated. As we age we can start to feel limited, especially as declining careers and health issues arise. Just seeing those drawings helped me realize I have control over whether my funnel closes down or expands as I age. Thanks for an awesome post!

  • ImAlott

    I’m going run with this

  • Faith

    Yes! When I was in third grade, our teacher asked us to write a story. I sat down, pulled out my copy of Black Beauty by Anna Sewell, and started copying it onto the paper. The teacher came around the room, saw what I was doing and asked me why I was doing it. I told her it was going to be much better than anything I could possibly write. So she explained the word “plagiarism” to me, and asked me to write something of mine instead. I told her, “OK, but it won’t be as good.”

    Years later, I started writing a journal. The first entry in my first journal is full of self-doubt about whether this was going to be any good, whether I would stick with it, etc.

    It has now been more than 20 years since that first journal entry. I now write something in my journal daily. I write poetry. I write songs. Ten years ago, I didn’t write songs, I didn’t play bass or mandolin, and the thought of singing solo in public terrifies me. Now my husband and I are just finishing up our second studio CD of our own songs. When we perform them live, we get people coming up to us afterwards telling us, “Wow, I could never do that — get up in front of people and sing!” And we keep telling them that we once believed that, too, and that we eventually just did it anyways. And the only way to get good at it and comfortable with it is to keep doing it, over and over. And just this past weekend I took my first dulcimer lesson. I definitely felt like a little kid in the dulcimer class. A new toy, something new to learn! Such fun! 🙂

  • nowimps

    I really needed to read this today. Starting a new life adventure this year and am terrified because I’m not really sure what I’ll be doing. I just know it won’t be what I’m doing right now.

  • Julie Squire

    Great insight into the tunnel vision theory. So happy that you have highlighted how we can use it to achieve positive results too 🙂

  • Lucia Hsieh

    Thanks Chandler… Really loving the illustrations. It reminds me to be grateful everyday for what I have learned and dream big!

  • Lynne

    Thank you for your insightful and inspiring words…Nurturing my inner 5 year old has given me the chance embark on a new career and “reimagine” myself when others are considering retirement. Your words make me feel I am not alone out here:-))

  • Kim Smith

    Love this article! This confirms so many thoughts and revelations I’ve had recently. Would love to win a copy of this book.!

  • RevDonna

    As a Unity minister, I am so thankful for this article and others like it on Tiny Buddha. This one particularly touched my heart. Many of the things I read here are SO preachable! Thank you, Namaskar, and Blessings for who you are and how you show up in the world!

  • Diane Hughes

    Insightful post. Thanks for sharing.

  • Artfish

    What poignant timing! Today I turn 54 and have considered, possibly, beginning to grow up. I just knew it was a trap! Wonderful-sounding book, I would love to read it.

  • Amber M

    This is something that everyone needs to hear about….sounds like an awesome book!

  • Jill

    What a great article! A dream of mine is actually to write a book as well and I’m battling the same fears. Thanks for sharing how you pushed through to be successful!

  • kyut530

    I think I needed this so much. Must push away the doubt, and find my potential…somewhere

  • Natalia

    Thank you for the refreshing post. I went to amazon to download the book (it was “free”?), yet when I received it in my Kindle (iPad), the entire book was not there. I then tried to download it and the PDF, as per the instructions, and it would not open. Any thoughts? Thanks:)

  • Maria

    Chandler thank you for such an amazing post. I needed these words today more than you will ever know. I need to get back in touch with that inner 5 year old and embrace the fear. Thank you for the reminder and inspiration. Wishing you all the best with your book and the future.

  • Somebody Else

    I was just wondering… What would my inner five year old do? And then I remembered the quiet, solemn child with the big eyes and the knack for disappearing, for melting away, for asking the big questions. At first I thought that this recollection means that this article must not apply to me. But then I remembered: my brand of fearlessness doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s would… And that those clues are just that… clues.

  • Jenna

    Hi Chandler, Thank you for your inspiring post! > PS I LOVE NEEDTOBREATHE! > This really resonates with me as a twenty something 🙂 rencently I have been feeling the pressures of finding my place and way to contribute in the world. I have been looking into second careers, with alot of anxiety and fear! Such great advice to think like a five year old to re-instill belief in myself, and overcome fear of failure. It makes me think of enjoying the ride more as well 🙂

  • LM

    Great post! love this site

  • wigirl

    I love the Belief Funnel and Possibilities Funnel – so true 🙂

  • Rachael

    How fun… I would love a book!

  • Cari

    The possibilities funnel made me smile! Much needed!

  • Yvon

    Thanks for the possibilities funnel. I will use it in my coaching

  • Cynthia Gauthier

    Very well written and inspiring. Thank You for energising my day with this fabulous post 🙂

  • Nic

    Just the sort of inspiration I was looking for – Thank you!! 😀 x

  • Allison Wonder Land

    I really love what you have to say here, and it really helped to hear it today when I was feeling a little bit down. Thank you. 🙂

  • Teri

    This is just what I needed today…. and to think about on a very regular basis – until it is a part of my “normal” thinking! 😉 THANKS and Namaste!

  • Duchess Dale

    neener-neener, chili-beaner. You nailed it! Congratulations on this and thanks for sharing.

  • I do think that having a childlike sense of wonder and curiosity in all things helps keep us open to whatever may happen. Children live with a view of “why not?” that adults would do well to often bring to mind.

  • The AbMaster

    My favourite movie has and always will be Peter Pan! I’ve taken away some new inspiration from this blog in general and I would love to get a book!

  • Dea Ramos

    the kind of thing I needed to be inspired on my birthday! Thank you and all the best!

  • Tdean

    This book is perfect for me! I am a 50 year old guy that has just decided I am pursuing an art career and already playing the inner mind games you discuss. I will make it happen and I am open to all the help I can get!

  • JR

    When I grow up, I want to live authentically, find more kids like you at the playground and leave a trail of glitter everywhere I go. Thank you for picking up your magic marker and sharing your gifts with the world.

  • Julie

    Thanks for that article. It is nice to think about how it is to be child and be carefree, and that we also need to do that once in a while. We need to just let go and be.

  • Alex

    I love, love, love the two funnels – thanks for sending love to the visual learners! And your point about accountability partners is great. I have just proposed a “writing contract” to a friend – we’ll just send a quick email/text (“done!”) when we’ve completed our individual daily writing goals. Should be great. Thanks again for an affirming and energizing post.

  • shelley

    Reading this was like small aha moments. Things I think deep down we all know, but don’t practice. It’s time I talk to my 5 year ols self more often.

  • Chandler Bolt

    No problem Sheri! I’m not much of an artist but I’m glad you could relate to my stick figure drawings 🙂

  • Kim

    Love this so much! Thanks for writing 🙂

  • Stacia

    Loved this. I think your title of this article would make a nice book title for your next book.

  • Jen Badger

    If you all haven’t gotten the book yet, do yourself a favor! So many good things to be found in the pages! You’ll be inspired no matter where you are in life and what you are facing. Strong work!

  • Danielle Vandenberg

    Great Funnel drawings to demonstrate how we tend to limit ourselves and how we can grow instead.

  • Laurie

    I knew TinyBuddha would offer exactly what I needed to think about today. Thanks Chandler.

  • ~jen

    I’m really interested in your book. Does it come in other formats if you don’t have a Kindle?

  • Chandler Bolt

    Thanks Danielle!

  • Chandler Bolt

    No problem. Think away! 🙂

  • Mellissa Welford

    Excellent story. Thank you for the opportunity to win one of your books. 🙂

  • Chandler Bolt

    Hey Jen,

    As of now you can only download through Kindle (can be downloaded & read on your computer) but when you download the book there’s a link for if you want to download the PDF or audiobook versions, all free.

  • Chandler Bolt

    That’s awesome to hear Jessica! Gotta love the timing.

  • Chandler Bolt

    Thanks Jen! Glad you’re enjoying the book.

  • Chandler Bolt

    I’ll keep that in mind 🙂

  • Heather McDougle

    This is an amazing book! It’s so inspiring and has changed my way of thinking! I feel like everyone can benefit from a copy of this book!

  • Kayleigh Dahowski

    Seth and Chandler know what they are talking about! They are both fully educated not only by schooling but also from all that their parents have taught them from living it first hand. I am glad they listened and wrote this book to share with others!

  • Exactly what I needed, exactly when. Thank you!

  • Atreau

    Can’t wait to read this book!

  • Talya Price

    Great article!!! I love it!!!

  • Regina

    This was just what I needed to read. Since I was young I’ve always wanted to be an artist – a “singing/songwriting” musician to be particular. Overtime I guess I became more jaded. it’s been so hard for me to buckle down and write my music because I doubt myself even before I write the first word – heck! even before I pull out the pen and paper. The interesting thing is I’m aware that I really do have a gift…but I’m overly critical or myself as the years go by. I guess it’s a good thing to realize that this negativity has been socialized into me now, at 21 years old, than never.

  • Summer Dawn Waugh

    Awesome! I’ve started the book and I already like it a lot. I think this book will definitely help me finish out nursing school.

  • VictoriaP

    Excellent post! I am in the process of re framing my life after being a mom and teaching for over 30 years. Who am I? What am I passionate about? What do I want to do? Being retired should be exciting, but fear and the feelings of inadequacy can certainly squash dreams and let your self imposed limitations seep in…I applaud you and your brother for your phenomenal work and for following your dream. I am really looking forward to reading your book! Thank you Chandler (and Seth) for inspiring others. 🙂

  • Flo

    I’ve always wanted to teach and was told yesterday that it would take 8 years of study and lots of money to do it, which made me give up. Having read the above I’m now determined to find a way to teach, ok so it may not be the way I dreamed – maybe I’ll teach English to migrants or Stats to uni students instead of primary school kids. But damn it I will find a way.

  • I loved this! Such perfect timing, considering the huge transition my husband and I are about to make in our lives. Your graphics are so spot-on!! I’m inspired by your story, Chandler, and I love that you and your brother collaborated to create something together. Thank you for sharing.

  • Sarah Woolley

    Wow, this is exactly what I needed to read today! The possibilities funnel said it all. There’s that “a picture is worth a thousand words” … come to life! I remember very well how I felt and how I thought as a five year old … that was sixty-one years ago and it is as clear as day to me! Thank you for the reminder. Now I am planning on moving more quickly towards my dreams of retirement, a lovely home to have family and friends stay with me for short or extended visits, the ability to fly anywhere to have fun or visit family and friends, a nice car and the love of my life to share it all with! Thank you and keep on pushing through to your five year old thoughts and sharing them with the world! Love to you and your brother!

  • Morinanna Wyzard

    this is so true, I just turned 50 and I refuse to grow up, I want to experience everything in life, I m just creating the new me after traveling down a very dark rod of grief. I want this year to be the year I finally celebrate me.

  • Danielle Nunez

    Would LOVE to add it to my personal library!

  • ßand Nnann

    nice! I’m 5 again! :=))))

  • Chandler Bolt

    Thanks Summer! Glad you’re enjoying it.

  • Chandler Bolt

    Appreciate the kind words Alex! I’m a visual learner too…could use some improvement in my drawing skills though 🙂

    Great to hear about your accountability partner! Would love to hear how that works out.

  • Chandler Bolt

    Thanks Dea. Happy birthday!!

  • Rachel

    Good stuff 🙂 I’m so glad you talked about learning to fail since it’s a lesson I myself learned recently. We discussed failure-tolerant leaders in one of my business classes in the fall and my professor said that the most successful entrepreneurs are those that are willing to let themselves and their employees fail because they value the education just as much as the potential profit 🙂

  • Chandler Bolt

    I love asking “why not?” instead of “why?”. It’s so much more fun!

  • Chandler Bolt

    Great to hear Jenna! I believe in you. Enjoy the ride 🙂

  • Chandler Bolt

    Hey Natalia,

    The PDF download should work. Did you try again? If it still doesn’t work, email us at 1book1lifehelp@gmail.com Thanks!

  • Chandler Bolt

    Thanks Michael! Love the 4 Hour Work Week.

    Glad I could help shape a different perspective on failure for you.

  • Chandler Bolt

    This is awesome Kate. You can do it!
    What would your inner 5 year old think about those doubts??

  • xnan

    I discovered several years ago, after a protracted illness made me feel like my youth had been “stolen” from me, that the more I was in touch with the child who lives inside me, the younger I felt AND the younger I appeared to others. Having fun is just another side of the same coin that tells you that HAPPINESS is paramount. I’m thinking that happiness WITH fun is likely the best formula for longevity, creativity, and all the other reasons you’d want to get out of bed in the morning.

  • Aaron Solidaro

    This was a top blog Tiny Buddha 🙂 Awesome words Chandler and great reminder… Thank You 🙂

  • Erin Godwin

    amazing! I hope everyone gets the chance to download the book. It’s a great one!

  • Priya

    I think the way you made your point of how we stop believing in our abilities by the time we grow up most resonates with me. You see, it is not as much about doing a thing as is about taking a pledge to start it or actually start it. And in all such situations belief helps a lot. And yes, failure is always heartbreaking. I am yet to get used to the learning it provides but I am on the way.
    I like the way you say,”Be the biggest loser.” Easy to say, I would say. It actually is difficult when everyone around you is achieving so much more than you. How to actually deal with it?

  • Allison Rogers

    I wish I could have that carefree feeling of being five years old again. Everything was exciting and wonderful! If only I knew how to get that back…

  • Richard

    Today I failed! At age 73 I tried to paint my Suzuki Samurai with cans of spray paint.
    My friends laughed we I did not accomplish this feat.
    Tonight reading this article I’m pleased I did try.

  • Enid

    Very inspiring….Thanks for the reminder that we can achieve what we want as long as we believe in ourselves & keep trying 🙂

  • Pete Ford

    Such a beautifully designed book

  • lovelylina

    This really hit home for me, thanks so much for sharing. I have a 4 year old boy and 8 month old girl. It recently struck me that as their Mum, I feel anything is possible for them and the world is their oyster. They can be anything they want to be and do anything they want to do. But yet self doubt, that negative inner voice and people telling me I can’t/shouldn’t follow my dreams as I have responsibilities etc has stopped me from following my own path and believing in myself. I stopped dreaming. But through your great illustrations, I can see now how I have been stopped and how I can start to dream again. Thanks so much for the inspiration I needed!

  • jmoomoo

    Just yesterday my sister totally bagged on my dreams, and I was starting to doubt my ability to achieve them today. Awesome article. Really made me realize that what she says is bull. It’s up to me. 🙂

  • Kaylsey

    I love this article and can relate heavily to it. I am going to use your suggestions on being the biggest loser and find support and encouragement for my trials. I should have alrwady knew this by seeking support to stopping smoking an being successful but you have confirmed that’s what I need to do to combat my other ambitions like losing the 12lbs I gained while stopping smoking. Thanks Chandler.

  • Maz Fentiman

    Love this and would love to read the book 🙂

    embracethelonelylife.blogspot.co.uk

  • Karen

    It’s great advice, although I wish I could remember what I wanted when I was five. Luckily for me I have a five your old son with enough crazy ideas for two of us. Last week he said when he grew up he wanted to live somewhere with palm trees and have four cars. Fair enough, although this week he wants to grow up to be a dentist. Not sure about that one!

  • vicjtor

    I started laughing at the realization this gave me. Now, as a first year high school band director, I’ve forgotten how to be free and enjoy the possibilities. This has certainly helped change my perspective. Thank you!

  • Joshua Michael Jenkins

    My entire life, I dreamed of owning a nice car. Starting at age 16, I would go online and build different models/configurations, hoping to one day be able to say, “I (over)paid for this on my own, with no help from anyone.” Now, eight years later, I just sat down with a real estate agent to get the ball rolling on buying some residential property. Why buy a car, when a can rent out a home, which will eventually pay for a new car?

    I’m not trying to toot my own horn — I never thought this would be my path. Do what makes you happy! Don’t be afraid to risk it all for independence and happiness 🙂

  • Clay Green

    Seth and his brother have an amazing voice! This is one of those messages we all need to be reminded of as often as possible. I’m about half way through the book now and enjoying every page. Seth- this article is so clear and pointed…. You are rocking it man!

  • Debi

    No small coincidence that my journaling (free-writing) is telling me to find my inner child again. At 56, she’s been hiding a LONG time. Thanks for such a refreshing post.

  • Jeremy Rill

    I have definitely forgotten how to be childlike. I am living in a rut and could REALLY use this! Thanks for the GREAT post!

  • Chinajim

    Great, have real fun daily.

  • Jason

    Really enjoyed this article. Great way to start off my day!

  • Michelle

    I often try to remember to think and see things like a child, they just have so much wonder about everything around them!

  • Shanna Gilbert

    This was definitely 1 of my favorite chapters in your book! There has been so many times in my life where I have been able to ‘unlock my inner 5 year-old’ and those moments have been some of the best!! Like preparing for a favorite concert in which we had nosebleed section seats & ending up front row or backstage or to meet the band! Unbelievable! Dreams do come true and I have always lived by that motto!

  • bcartist

    I have suppressed my inner child for far too long, and she’s crying out for attention. I too have forgotten what it was like to be surrounded by magic and believing in all possibilities. This book sounds incredible and a wonderful way to connect people and become aware of the lost child inside. Thank you!

  • Ailura Fate

    This article is great. I’m in the same shoes as Seth. I’m in a band and it’s what I’ve always wanted to do, but there’s so much rejection in the music industry it’s really hard sometimes. This is a great reminder to keep telling myself I’m talented and I can do it. Thanks for this post. I especially like the charts. 🙂

  • Sulfyr

    “If you never fail, you will never make a difference in this world”

    This really struck a chord with me and I thank you for that. Personally, I have been working a job that I immensely dislike (don’t hate it yet but give me another couple of months…) to allow me to financially support myself and my plethora of pets (2 large dogs, 2 cats, 3 geckos and my Ball Python, Tofu).. Not to mention all of the other standard bills.

    I have been pondering a career change to one I always wanted as a kid but never dreamed remotely possible.. I feel actually depressed at the thought of waking and going to current job, but fear of the unknown and not thinking myself smart or capable enough to be able to do my dream job… Or even to go back to school.

    I think I may just submit the forms for extra highschool credits that is sitting filled out in my desk at work (should have taken chemistry, not physics!). What is the worst that can happen?

  • jennifer

    Seeing these graphs really represents the truth. The dreams I once had as a kid that are hardest to ignore and the ones that keep resurfacing are the one that I need to keep on pursuiting as an adult. My inner child won’t stop bugging me about it until I achieve them. Thank you for sharing your writing.

  • Nmcomeau

    You make me want to do humanitarian work, join a band, and write a book. After I become a personal trainer and open my own gym, of course…

  • Wendy

    Great advice… my retirement is just around the corner (45 yr career!)… time to widen my horizons.. actually my dream to become a yoga teacher and show people its never too late to touch your toes!

  • Very encouraging article – thank you!

  • Inventor

    Hey, I needed this right now. I’ve felt for a while like I’m just failing everything. This is mainly about having some financial problems and stress about the future, which have led to me having tiny daily nervous breakdowns.

    I guess I’m just not seeing enough of the possibilities and not having enough belief in myself. But I’m doing my best to tell myself it’s just a temporary state of embarrassment. And I definitely haven’t lost that 5-year-old.

  • Matt Duplessie

    Great write-up. There’s the programming matrix of our lives and belief systems that seem to push us further from that fearless, curious, exploratory, inquisitive child-nature. By ‘returning to innocence’ we seemingly rebalance these programs with feelings our child-self exhibited so effortlessly. Here’s to the balance!

  • Naman

    A wonderful article that Inspires

  • Vivian

    This is an amazing article, and I came across it right when I needed it most. This fueled me to fight my fears – thank you.

  • Jeevan/Mirthu/Gupt

    Thank You for sharing; really needed this…. Best wishes with both your mission on saving 10,000 lives! 🙂

  • M

    Hi. This week has been trying. My 26-year old cousin committed suicide a week ago, and his death has brought to life something I’ve thought of quite a few times but not attempted due to my parental obligations. Sometimes I allow outer experiences to deeply affect my inner knowing and reading the above is helping to lift me out of a funk. I am a therapist by profession and greatly help people in all areas of life. Self-help, however, is hard work. The judgments I face to be better than most at handling life’s trials and tribulations is challenging at times…but I need to remember what it was like at five and just not care what people think.

  • This post is phenom…CONGRATS on your successful journey! I truly enjoy hearing stories like this. I think people need to hear more as well as be taught on how to live a fulfilling life. That’s why I want to create a curriculum around this & other spiritual topics. Do you all think it’s a good idea? Would you purchase a product that would teach you how to find your passion & purpose? If so, how much? I just think many people are walking around like zombies & not aware of such joy & happiness they can have in life. Thanx for you posting, time, consideration & feedback!

    I look forward to your next posting! =D

    xoxoxox

    Tiff

  • Raquel

    Great insight! So jazzed to forward this on to others

  • patrick musonye

    Failure seems to be the short cut to success as i read many insights of those who have overcome adversity to thrive.