I didn’t realise this thread was 4 years old, if I did I probably wouldn’t have replied. Either way it’s an interesting predicament and I hope lady who asked the question has found kher answers, and to her satisfaction.
You’re not really questioning your sexuality, because you’ve always known your sexuality. What you’re questioning is who you are and comparing it to who you want to be.
This attraction is rooted in some sense of self esteem, and the person you’re attracted to embodies qualities which you wish yourself to have. What those qualities are, is for your own contemplation… But please don’t jump to the assumption, or belief, that you’re gay or bi, if you were truly gay, you’d have known at least 10 years ago and likely would never have been straight. Remain confident in your sexuality, but do ask yourself “what do I like about this person” and “how can I integrate those qualities into myself”.
Some qualities are easier to integrate than others. Maybe she has nicer boobs, nicer ass, well just accept that there’s nothing wrong with your own. If the difference is personality, then maybe that’s something you can work on… Personality and attitude are the only things we have a real chance of changing, because we can change our appearance but does it really change how we feel about self?
Is it a question of why am I attracted to this woman, or a question of what is unacceptable about me but acceptable about her.
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