Hey Confused:

To explain further? We’ll whatever of what zI brought up that you would like to explain- to Clarify, so to undo the Confusion.

What you described just a little, in regard to your childhood relationship with your mother sounds significant to me.

Was your love for her a burden, leading to any romantic love feeling like a burden?

If only I could have had a SIMPLE childhood experience, life might have been simple for me.

A mother is supposed to Provide for her son or daughter. not to EXTRACT, to burden her child.

“When people make me responsible for their feelings”- my mother made me feel responsible for her feelings, and it was unfair, abusive, devastating.

In regard to your last point, the fantasy point.. can’t follow right now. My thinking: remove the mother from the romantic-interest, and it,z’d make all the difference.

…??? 🤍🌙🤍 Anita

You posted every day since Dec 19, Confused, most often, multiple times per day. Today, you posted once, and you mentioned something that may mean that you won’t post again.

Interesting how 🤔 we get attached, we humans. I got attached to reading from you.

If you don’t post again here, Confused, I wish you the best, Clarity and all.

🤍🩵🌙🤞 Anita

Dear Alessa:

I read that the most common cause of the cluster of symptoms you described is Viral Gastroenteritis (“stomach flu”) which is the number one cause of vomiting in toddlers and the most frequent reason for nausea and vomiting in children.

Typical features include repeated vomiting, inability to keep food or milk down, dehydration (no urine, dry mouth, low energy), fever, and extreme tiredness or weakness. This fits a lot of what you described.

A less common reason: Bacterial Intestinal Infection like salmonella or staph which can also cause vomiting, diarrhea (not always), fever, dehydration and abdominal pain.

When a child vomits repeatedly and can’t drink, dehydration can become severe. Signs of dehydration in toddlers include no urine for 8+ hours, unusual sleepiness, weakness, dry mouth and low blood sugar
These are all listed as reasons to seek urgent care.

I read that you’ve been doing exactly what a parent should do: refusing to leave the hospital when he wasn’t stable, monitoring his fluids, using electrolyte solutions, watching for worsening symptoms, and planning to return to the doctor if needed

You are a parent who is advocating fiercely for your son, Alessa.

Wishing the two of you the best!

🤍💙🙏💙🤍 Anita

Dear Nichole:

Bogart and I say hi 🐶 👋 🙂. We’ll both be here for you when you are in Chicago, as well as before and after.

I am glad you’ve been feeling better and thinking more clearly, and that you have a plan in regard to the stay in Chicago:

1. “I can excuse myself from any conversation.”

2. “I can make calls to people who love me and who can keep me grounded.”

3. “I can write here to you.”

4. “I can keep an earbud in my ear with my peaceful podcasts or something similar.”

5. “I can imagine I was a little girl on a trip and play the mother role and keep myself safe as can be.”-

Excellent 5-part plan, Nichole 🌟💫 🫱🫲

The idea occurred to me that if you can arrange for flexibility in regard to flying back to FL, that is, if you can leave Chicago earlier than planned, if needed, when needed, that could be part of the plan?

🤍 Anita

You feel the 🙂 same with me..Ohhh ..?

Please 🙏 tell me more, I want to understand better ( be back in the morning 🌄

🤍 Anita

I can tell you why I had let such things happen: I didn’t feel of enough worth to say NO, and I was afraid to hurt the feelings of people
who mattered (while in my mind.. I didn’t).

😔 Anita

Hey Confused:

“Something fragile (her feelings and trust)”-

You don’t want her feelings and trust betrayed like it happened to your feelings and trust (as a boy)?

Your father expresses his love for you “very intensely”, you say.

I can imagine a cringe 😬 on the receiving end.

What do you mean by very intensely?

🤍 Anita

Dear Alessa:

I wish I was there to help you with your son, so you could feel you had emotional and practical support from a woman who (age wise) could have been your mother 🤗

I am going to pray (it’s a new practice on my part, praying) for your son’s healing and recovery 🙏 🤲 🙏

I will also pray for you to rest and feel the confidence in yourself as a mother, a confidence you deserve to have as you’ve been doing your very best for so very long, each and every day and night.

🤍 🩵 🤍 Anita