Okay, I am moved to answer “What is expected if one needs to fart”, “in a room where people sit to meditate” 🧘‍♂️ 🧘‍♂️ 🧘‍♀️ 🧘‍♂️ 🧘‍♂️ 🧘‍♀️

Before I continue, let me see 👀 if there’s such a thing as a fart emoji.. No! How disappointing 😞.

Let me look for anything close to it.. ⛽️ is all I am getting.

Back to the question. I am giving this deep thought 🤔 I wonder if the meditating people can discuss and agree on what to do ahead of time?

I mean bring it to the open so that individuals don’t struggle with the dilemma individually. Just make it a group decision.

Also, agree on foods to eat and foods not to eat before meditation. Also, there’re tablets available over the counter to prevent smelly parts. I mean farts (I’m using my number phone 📱)

Oh, of course, meditating rooms can be ventilated, and there are air purifiers that neutralize bad smells.

The above was my best 👌 attempt to answer your question, Thomas.

🤔 ⛽️ 👀 😷 🤔 Anita

🪄 😂 🤣 😆 😹 😭😂 🪄

It definitely sounds like depression, Confused. It’s not just losing feelings for her, it’s like you said, empty shell, empty of all positive feelings. Did you email/ contact the psychiatrist? I imagine he can prescribe you an antidepressant without seeing you again simply because he already did most recently, So, it may be done instantly?

Hey Confused:

Oh, I understand and it makes sense- you overheard your mother talking to her mother (I overheard so much of my mother talking to her sisters/ people on the phone a whole lot. The apt was small and her voice loud. I couldn’t help but hear and I remember clearly wishing that I wouldn’t hear.

So much of it was child inappropriate 😔 .

Right before I read your 2nd message today, I thought to myself: the psychiatrist SHOULD have prescribed something for you, for depression, and then I read that you think he was wrong.

Call him maybe for another session or consultation?

🤍 Anita

For whatever it may be worth, Thomas (and it may be worth nothing at all to you), but I thought it cannot harm to tell you-

I do think that you are funny, very funny. You made me laugh many times (I did let you know), particularly your self- deprecating humor.

I believe that you are a good – and a funny 😁 man, Thomas.

Thank you for being you, and thank you for being here.

You make a positive difference 🙏

🤍 🙏 ✨️ Anita

Hey Confused:

You heard her discussing things with her mother- you mean during the 3 days you visited her?

“I don’t know if I wanna do it”- you mean getting your feelings for her back?

I wonder 🤔 about the nature of your contact with her recently, currently? (may be too many ?s for one post … ?)

Dear Emma:

Good to read back from you, it’s always good.

As I was reading about your guilt in regard to W, I was thinking: he’s either in his late 30s (?) Or in his 40s. He’s had a lot of life before he met you, particularly his Formative Years (his childhood), and you had absolutely nothing to do with his problems, emotional conflicts, insecurities, impulsiveness, etc. Absolutely Nothing. I hope that this guilt on your part alleviates.

Yes, I think W would have been unhealthy for you, he’s already been unhealthy for you.

In regard to the key issue 🔑 , someone healthier, once you explained to him your anxiety/ OCD issue, would have tried to calm and reassure you that it’s okay, that he trusts you and appreciate your honesty, and he’d tell you that you don’t have to tell him everything.

I hope that over time you will be more and more authentic, true to yourself. On this topic, you might want to read my reply to another member earlier today in regard to managing other people’s emotions. I think it applies to you too (the reply is the first of the two I submitted today, the one I addressed to “Confused”.

Regarding the ice cream 🍦 thing- it’s very much related to the mask topic you brought up. Growing up (more accurate, growing in, as in inward, shrinking), I was masked 😷 big time. Was not authentic, severely focused on managing my mother’s emotions (what is SHE feeling?), that I lost touch with what I was feeling, so much so, that I couldn’t choose a “yes” or a “no”, nor could I choose an ice-cream flavor.

Great progress thing, more authentic and maskless than ever 👏

Back to W- not a good match for you. You need someone mature, calm, stable (which you suggested before would be boring for you 😴), but such a man, I believe, would be right ✅️ for you.

By the way, what is your favorite ice-cream flavor (if 😋 any)?

🤍 Anita

Hey Confused:

Your mother’s input regarding her partner was inappropriate. She should have shared those things with another adult, not with a child, and particularly not with her own minor-age son!

Why did this come up with her? I don’t know
Maybe because you felt safer with her for a long time than you did with other romantic interests prior to her.

Yes, you can change internal things about yourself, like core beliefs ( such as what is love, really, true love, that is), and you can change old adaptations (managing other people’s emotions), as well as becoming more authentic. It takes time, persistence, and that thing you mentioned 🙂 patience.

Can you reactivate your feelings for her? I think 🤔 that if the pressure (to manage her feeling, the pressure of feeling responsible for her feelings) alleviates- then your loving feelings for her may return.

What surely doesn’t work is pressure to feel.

🤍 Anita