Dear Tommy:

Thank you for your kind words about me 🙏

Congrats for 22 years of smoking-abstinance- one of the many loving things you did as a father, and from her very birth 👍👍👍

I too drink not so to get drunk, but so to get tipsy. Alcohol is the cause or facilitator of a lot of harm in the world, but it is also a great relief and even healing (what’s behind the term “wine therapy”) for millions- not harmful, but helpful- not in excess, of course.

* And excess is clearly defined when it comes to driving. So, no argument there!

I would like to research if there’s a Zen Story about alcohol (later, when I have access to the one remaining computer after mine was destroyed due to an accident due to 🍷 my dog).

Anita

This thread is a marketing promotion/ advertisement for “My ESA Therapist” & for “Real ESA Letter.com” disguised as ‘just asking’ posts, or like in the other 2 threads (promoting the same) disguised as asking for advice.

Anita

Dear Tom:

It’s so good to hear from you and congratulations to you and your partner on the pregnancy 🤍
🌿✨. I can imagine how it feels both exciting and unreal at this early stage, and how natural it is for nerves to show up alongside the happiness. Big changes often bring both.

It also makes sense that the job situation feels heavier now. Pressure tends to grow when responsibilities grow, but you’ve always shown that you do your best with what’s in front of you, step by step. That’s all anyone can do.

I’m well, thank you for asking. Actually, it made my day to read the news from you, brings the first smile of the day to my face 🙂

Anita

Bonjour SereneWolf:

I posted to you in your other thread some time ago that I looked for the photo of the SERENE WOLF sign in the winery but seemed like I deleted it sometime along the way. I wish I didn’t so that I could somehow post it for you here.

I reread your very first post in tiny buddha (as Addy, remember?). It was on Sept 22, 2022 (age 26) and decided to copy it for my favorite AI (Copilot) and then, I quoted your most recent post of May 8, 2026 (age 30?) Those 2 posts and nothing else, and asked Copilot what stayed the same and what changed.

Copilot: “Across four years, the content of SereneWolf’s life changed — he went from unemployed and hopeless to finally getting the full‑time remote job he dreamed of — but the structure of his inner world stayed almost exactly the same:

“The same self‑doubt, the same fear of failure, the same ‘don’t mess this up’ voice, the same collapse of energy after hope, the same loneliness that surges when stress rises, and the same belief that one rejection or one difficulty predicts the whole future.

“What’s different now is not his emotional pattern but his circumstances: in 2022 he feared he’d never get a job; in 2026 he fears he won’t be able to keep the job.

“In 2022 he doubted his relationship would work; in 2026 he doubts he can feel secure in connection at all. In 2022 he felt hopeless because nothing was happening; in 2026 he feels overwhelmed because something finally did happen.

“The external story changed — the internal voice did not. His negative inner critic simply moved from ‘you’ll never get a job’ to ‘you won’t be able to handle the job,’ proving that the problem was never the job market but the persistent, unhealed pattern inside him.”

What says you, SereneWolf: does Copilot (having been given only 2 of your posts- 3 years, 7 months and 13 days apart, and nothing else)- knows what it’s talking about?

And more importantly, how are you, SereneWolf?

As I read through your posts in this thread earlier today, I was again impressed by how gracious and kind you’ve been all along.. positively special, really. In a way I failed to appreciate at times (because I was more messed up than I am today 😳), and I regret that.

I hope to read back from you, and maybe it’ll be a good thing for you and for me, to reconnect in a healthier, positive, helpful way?

Anita

Hmmm… This is big, confused:

True Love Expands you, makes you more confident, peaceful within, curious, adventurous, expansive. And if “love” contracts you, makes you fearful, numb, smaller.. why, that’s not love.

That makes a lot of sense to me, Confused. It wasn’t love that I grew up with because it contracted me, made me fearful, made me shut down to life.

Enough for tonight.

Anita

Hey Confused:

I just asked and the line I remembered wasn’t about dreams but about love: “’Tis better to have loved and lost- than never to have loved at all.” This is from Alfred Lord Tennyson’s poem In Memoriam A.H.H. (1850).

When it’s hot, the only way to cool off (without AC) is to get into cold water or get cold water/ drinks into you and hardly move otherwise.

Lucky-non-fungi Confused 😄

Anita