How are you, Robin? I hope to read from you again 🙂

Good Friday morning (here), evening (there), Robi 🙂

The smell of vodka alone is enough to trigger a coma warning in my 🧠. To taste it (and I did) is torture, so if I end up in a coma, it’ll have to be lots and lots of sweet 🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷

I am glad you survived the event! (I’ll drink to celebrate it later 🍷..)

You asked how I am today- well, silly, aa you can see above 🐔

You named him, yes, makes sense..

Never tried ecstacy, but sounds interesting: better than alcohol and without the calories?

No worries, Robi, you can’t talk this 👵 into hard drugs 🤔

” Now I just want some peace”- I like that!

Congrats for fine-tuning the alcohol intake, finding the middle way (a Buddhist principle). The middle way between total abstinence and drunkness. Coming to think about it, doestraditional Buddhism advocates for the middle- way when it comes to alcohol?

Alcohol definitely facilitates connectedness with other people and within, when not overly consumed, of course. Then it just makes you sick.

Your Cafe Bistro idea sounds enticing! I just had an auditory visual of a Robi-designed attractive place for community building with music and a fancy antique Merceded Benz parked in the front 👍🎶👍🎶👍

Anita

Hey 👋 again, Confused:

So glad to read that escitalopram is helpin- just like it’s supposed to (it was developed, tested, and studied a lot before it became available).

I didn’t understand the question at the end of your post. Can you explain it?

Yes, whenever I’m on the phone (like now) or on the computer, I always check tiny buddha- it’s an 11 year habit!

More adjectives you used to describe her: Open, Transparent.

You are making progress, Confused 👏, a delight to witness!

“I am a slave to feelings/ intensity/ highs”- like a drug addict? Maybe advice for real drug addicts can help you 🤔

🐔 Anita

Hey Dear Confused 🙂

She’s Amazing, Beautiful, Caring, Considerate, Honest, Loving and Sweet- all the adjectives you used in this message to describe her ( in alphabetical order).

You also called her ” a treasure” and said (the magical words, in my mind): “I trust her.”

The thought that occurred to you: “Why are U not feeling head over heels”-

And the thought that just occurred to me: what if you redirect your focus from Feeling (or not feeling) to ===> Values.

Caring, Considerate, Honest and Trustworthy- how about just appreciating these values- rather than seeking emotional highs?

🤔 Anita

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Bogart says: thank you, Debbie 🐶 🐕🐾🤍

Hi again, Calm Moon 🌙

Reading your update, I can really see how much you have grown. What stands out to me is that you acted from your adult self, not from the old role of being the “good, invisible” girl. You felt the fear of being unloved, yet you still spoke honestly about your needs — that is a major shift.

You also saw that your seniors’ irritation belongs to them, not to you, which shows healthier boundaries and less emotional over‑responsibility.

And the relief you describe — that “strangely beautiful” feeling — is what happens when a person becomes visible without danger. It’s a sign that something deep inside you is changing.

Your faith seems to support this shift too, helping you release the old habit of carrying what isn’t yours.

In general (I am writing this not only for you, but for myself), “carrying what isn’t yours” means taking responsibility for other people’s emotions, reactions, burdens, or life problems as if they were your own. It’s when a child absorbs a parent’s sadness, anger, shame, instability, or unmet needs and believes she must fix them — even though they were never hers to solve.

As adults, this shows up as feeling guilty when someone else is upset and adjusting yourself: softening your voice, over‑explaining, apologizing unnecessarily, or avoiding asking for what you need, so they won’t feel discomfort, or if a friend looks sad, you might rush to cheer them up even when you’re exhausted, because their sadness feels like something you must fix.

Healing means gently handing those burdens back — recognizing that other people’s feelings, stress, and life path are theirs, not yours, and that your job is only to carry what truly belongs to you.

Altogether, your update is a strong and steady healing direction. I’m very happy for you 🌿✨

“He provides all good things, all the time, for everyone” — I like that! It’s only recently that I’m making it a daily practice to notice those good things and express gratitude.

🌙🤍🤲 Anita