How R U, Mollie, a month & 2 days since ce you posted last?

* I just realized I didn’t check the app you recommended 😔

Anita

Using computer. Copilot: “Emotional decay can look like this: You remember what happened, but you can’t remember how it felt — because the feelings slowly faded, got buried, or were never safe enough to feel in the first place. Over time, the emotional part of the memory “thins out.”

The facts stay, but the feelings go dim. That’s decay: a slow loss of emotional color, warmth, or connection to your own inner experience.

Why it happens in childhood trauma: A child who grows up in chaos or fear learns to shut down feelings to survive. When that happens day after day, year after year, the emotional layer of experience gets worn down. You still know the story, but the emotional truth of it is missing, muted, or unreachable.

So yes — remembering events but not remembering how they felt is one of the clearest signs of emotional decay.

This is how the mind protects a child who has no escape: by numbing, shrinking, or disconnecting from emotions that would have been too overwhelming to feel at the time. As an adult, this shows up as blankness, confusion, or the sense that memories have ‘no color.'”-

The above (including the word “confusion”, Confused) was not about you, or about me specifically- just general info.

Back to 3 posts ago: “Remember you shared only a few posts ago that someone told you… that when you talked about the violence etc., of growing up with your mother, you sounded like you were reading an article in a newspaper?… Do you 🤔 that indeed you weren’t affected?”

Anita

Edit: since we talked a few months ago ( 🖥 broke either Dec or Jan.. .maybe Feb)

* Using my 📱, I was talking with Copilot about Covid and came across a term called “emotional decay” which applies to what happened with Covid as well as to personal trauma:

We remember what happened ( events) but not the fear, stress etc., that we felt back then.

I want to look more into it later, but it does fit how I “forgot” how terrified I felt during events I do remember.

It may apply to you too: remembering events, but not remembering how you felt during those events.

🧠 Anita

Good morning, Dave 🙂

What a delightful update- 3 months and 10 days since your last, and THREE years, three months and 11 days since your first post here in the forums (Jan 24, 2023).

The separation from your wife sounds so perfectly mature on both sides, and your mutual care for your children- admirable.

The thought that you could coach people who are going through separation and divorce, particularly people who co- parent, and in a new relationship just crossed my mind.

Your insight, wisdom and maturity level, your ability to navigate a complex situation with such pace and grace is amazing to me.

I think it’s rare and that the people in your life, particularly your children, are fortunate to have you in there with them and for them 🙏

👏 🌿 ✨️ Anita