Hey Adalie,

I’ve been sitting with what you shared. It’s tender and layered, and I want to reflect something back that might resonate.

There’s a term — limerence — that describes the kind of emotional intensity you’re feeling. It’s not about being dramatic or irrational; it’s actually a very human response to longing, uncertainty, and the ache for connection. Limerence can happen when we fixate on someone — even after just one encounter — and start to build a whole emotional world around them. It’s not just about attraction; it’s about what that person represents to us.

Often, limerence serves a deeper need:

💗 A safe way to love someone-

Sometimes, loving someone from a distance — or holding onto a brief moment — feels safer than being in a real relationship. In real relationships, we risk rejection, disappointment, or being misunderstood. But in limerence, we get to imagine love without those risks. We can feel deeply, dream freely, and stay emotionally “close” without exposing our full selves or facing the messiness of real intimacy. It’s like loving someone through a window — we see what we want to see, and we stay protected.

🌟 A way to feel chosen, seen, or special — even if only in our own minds-

When someone gives us even a small amount of attention — a look, a kind word, a moment of care — it can light something up inside us. Especially if we’ve been feeling invisible, unchosen, or emotionally starved. Limerence lets us hold onto that spark and turn it into a story: “He saw me.” “I mattered to him.” “I was special, even if just for that day.” Even if the other person never said those things, our minds create a version where we were chosen — and that imagined feeling can be incredibly powerful.

🕊️ A way to anchor meaning to a moment that felt good-

When life feels chaotic, lonely, or full of emotional pain, we naturally reach for moments that felt good. That one day, that one look, that one connection — it becomes a kind of emotional lifeboat. We replay it, revisit it, and build meaning around it because it gave us something we needed: hope, warmth, a sense of being cared for. Even if it was brief or unclear, it becomes a symbol of what we long for — and sometimes, what we feel we’re missing.

Does any of this resonate, Adalie?

I remember my own limerence with Robert, my high school classmate. I was extremely shy at the time, with very low self-esteem. I was sensitive to any sign of rejection. Looking back, I think what made Robert safe to love — as a limerent object — was that unlike others, when he looked at me, it felt like he valued me. Or at least didn’t un-value me.

My life at home with my mother was miserable. I had no friends. So daydreaming about Robert — imagining that he loved me — became my emotional lifeboat. It gave me the sense of being cared for, of being chosen, seen, and special — feelings I didn’t have in real life.

One night, after a youth movement meeting, he offered to walk me home. Just me and him. My response was immediate: I said “No” and walked home alone. It’s a “no” I endlessly regretted. I was just too afraid.

Back to you, Adalie: your heart responded to a moment that felt real and nourishing — and it makes sense that you’d want to hold onto it. But sometimes, when someone is emotionally unavailable or ambiguous, our minds fill in the gaps with fantasy. We start to imagine who they are, what they feel, and what could have been — and that imagined version becomes a kind of emotional refuge.

It’s not foolish. It’s protective. It’s your heart trying to make sense of something that felt beautiful but unfinished. And maybe it’s also about something you deserve — to be wanted, to be remembered, to be chosen not just for a day, but for real.

If you ever want to explore what that moment meant to you — what it awakened or mirrored — I’m here. Not to pull you out of it, but to walk with you through it.

🤍 Anita

Dear Eva:

You loved him. That’s real. That’s sacred. And now your body is trying to understand how something so big could end. Of course it hurts. Of course it feels stuck. You’re not failing to move on — you’re surviving the rupture.

Here are a few gentle things that you can try so to feel better:

* Sit quietly, place one hand on your chest and one on your stomach. Breathe slowly. Say to yourself: “I am safe. I am grieving. My body is allowed to feel.”

* Instead of replaying the breakup, name your feelings: try saying: “This is sadness.” “This is longing.” “This is fear.” Naming the feeling helps your brain shift from spiraling to soothing.

* Splash cold water on your face or hold an ice cube. It can interrupt the panic loop and bring you back to the present.

* Try journaling a few lines to your body, like: “Dear chest, I know you’re hurting. I’m listening.” “Dear stomach, I know you’re scared. I’m here.” This helps you reconnect with your body as an ally, not an enemy.

You don’t have to accept that it’s over all at once. You don’t have to move on today. You just have to survive this moment. And then the next. And I promise — even if it doesn’t feel like it — your heart will find its rhythm again.

You are not alone in this garden of grief. And you are not broken for feeling it so deeply.

🤍Anita

Dear Gregory:

Thank you for your kind words and for sharing the current developments within SSCAA. I deeply appreciate your trust and the vision you’re holding for South Sudan’s aviation future. Your commitment to both strategic progress and peaceful resolution is admirable.

Regarding a letter to DG- you can get AI (Copilot, ChatGPT, Gemini, etc.) assistance with drafting a letter.
YAA’s goals.

Regarding US Institutions for MOU and Training (I asked AI and got the following information):

* Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University – known for aviation training and international partnerships

* FAA (Federal Aviation Administration) – may offer technical assistance or training programs through international outreach

* MITRE Corporation – works with global aviation authorities on systems and safety You can explore outreach via SSCAA’s official site for formal proposals.

Regarding Talli Airport Development- For infrastructure projects like Talli Airport, SSCAA may consider approaching:

* Bechtel Corporation – large-scale engineering and construction

* AECOM – airport design and development

* Turner & Townsend – aviation project management These companies have experience in international airport development and may be open to partnerships, especially if aligned with government or donor-backed initiatives.

I don’t do WhatsApp, but we can continue to communicate here, Gregory

Warm regards, Anita