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March 1, 2026 at 8:14 pm #455613
anitaParticipantJust in case you answer soon, I’ll be back to the 📱 or 🖥 Mon morning (it’s Sun night here) 🌙
March 1, 2026 at 8:06 pm #455612anitaParticipant* edit: since you were 13 (not 23, lol)
March 1, 2026 at 8:03 pm #455611anitaParticipantOh, dear Confused (I feel close to you as I read your words this Sun night 🌙, here).
You say you were disconnected from your mother/ parents since you were 23. But before 13, those 13 years of connection did not disappear.
The feeling of not knowing the person you felt close to before (coming to think about it, it’s like- at 13- not knowing your mother anymore, no longer feeling close to her.)
From my experience, it took me Reconnecting to the real life (childhood) experience (which I did my best to disconnect from).
Since I reconnected, got to feel what I did my best not to feel (love for my mother), my feelings for others are quite consistent.
So, yea, the feeling of not knowing those I felt close to before.. yes, it did go away.
😕🤔😳😢😠😔💤 Anita
March 1, 2026 at 7:14 pm #455608anitaParticipantHey Dear Confused:
Like you don’t even know her.. I know the feeling!
For me, F was it (and I imagine it’s in addition to A and D).
For me, my early life experience was so powerful no matter how much and how long I avoided addressing it- it was, still is powerful.
You didn’t share, and it’s okay if you don’t.. what did your mother die of, what happened, how was it for you?
🙄 Anita
March 1, 2026 at 6:27 pm #455605anitaParticipantAbout fish 🐟 oil, I am serious about it- it made a huge difference to me mentally. It’s brain- food.
I eat a can of sardines (high quality) in olive 🫒 oil each and every day.
Try it, you don’t need a prescription for it.
🫒🐟🧠 Anita
March 1, 2026 at 5:28 pm #455604anitaParticipantDear still Confused 😕:
What I am thinking about something lacking from within you?
Let me put it in a multiple choice test question format (I am having a bit of fun with this)
Q: __?__ is lacking from within me.
Please fill in the blank with one, none, or any combination of the following:
A. Courage to move to a new country.
B. Courage to commit to a real-life, long term relationship.
C. Acceptance of who I am; the good, the bad and the ugly (so to speak, you may have nothing bad or ugly 😉 about you)
D. Courage to risk rejection.
E. A vitamin, a mineral, and/ or fish 🐟 oil.
F. Healing from childhood trauma/ unfinished business from back then.
G. Willingness to replace every part of the fantasy about who she is, with reality.
H. I, J, K, L, M, N.
🐟🙄✨️🤪 Anita
March 1, 2026 at 1:58 pm #455595anitaParticipantHi Tom (Almost 🎂4️⃣0️⃣🥳)
I just realized that we first talked when you were 30 (Dec 20, 2016), my goodness, time flies!
How about coming up with a purpose before your 40th birthday- not an objective purpose like getting a particular job, but something subjective, like… well, you tell me (if you will 😊)
✨️ Anita
March 1, 2026 at 11:04 am #455593anitaParticipantHey Dear Confused:
Thank you! Yes, seems like I’ve been reporting myself 😳
What’s strange- to me- is that truly you sound (or read) like a kind person (to me and to others who replied to you), and a loving person to her.
You sound full of emotion (that’s why I genuinely like you), and yet, you say you feel none.
Now, I am thinking (I feel a thought approaching, 🤔, don’t know yet what it is, lol), maybe.. no, no thought came through.
You wrote that you feel very bad about losing your person- that’s a lot of feeling right there.
Guess who’se confused 😕
About whether to tell the psych about you no longer taking the drug he perscribed- I don’t know. He didn’t sound professional to me, from what you described.
🤔 👀😕 Anita
February 28, 2026 at 7:54 pm #455583anitaParticipantFor crying 😢 out loud, it’s possible that I reported myself for inappropriate content. Okay, whatever. I suppose it’s me using the phone and scrolling down quickly.
February 28, 2026 at 7:47 pm #455581anitaParticipantThis reply has been reported for inappropriate content.
I didn’t mean that you should feel 🥶 (what does this emoji even mean?) Let’s go for 😊 😊 😔 ☺️ 😠.. Just feelings. Soon 2 B not confused.
February 28, 2026 at 7:23 pm #455580anitaParticipantIt makes sense to me, Confused, that you don’t trust a med that makes you even more numb!
I grew to like you, Confused, I really do, and I am looking forward to you FEELING 😃 🔥 🥶 🎵
🤍✨️🙏👀 Anita
February 28, 2026 at 6:58 pm #455579anitaParticipantDear Mollie:
You are very welcome 🙏 and again, thank you for your kindness and attention.
I am so very curious to know what “selfless” means to you in regard to your choices in life, or in general- what “selfless” means to you.
Self-less (or more accurately, No-Self), is what my mother demanded of me, as in loving her = no me.
My healing has been, and still is, about resurrecting that the me in that no-me.
Do you have thoughts or feelings about what I’m saying? It’s okay if you don’t, or if I sound too intense.
🙏🤍✨️ Anita
February 28, 2026 at 2:44 pm #455577anitaParticipantWhat “psychotic thoughts” did you have?
So, the doctor’s guarantee that the med will work, what happened to that guarantee?
Oh, Confused, I am looking forward to to the day Confused will declare: I am no longer Confused, and he (that is you) will change his screen name to ..Clear, or CLEAR..
🙏🤍👀
February 28, 2026 at 11:07 am #455571anitaParticipantDear Mollie:
Thank you so much for your lovely replies. I want to reread them later and reply further. But dor now, I want to say: you are a genuinely good, caring and generous person.
Remember to put yourself first though. Not selfishly but not selflessly either.
🤍🙏🤍 Anita
February 28, 2026 at 10:56 am #455570anitaParticipantDear Robi:
I appreciate it that you took the time to give me a quick update!
Well, she’s arriving Monday. Here is my suggestion: have a conversation with AI (I use Copilot, as you know), and tell it the situation, just as you told me over time. Tell it the current circumstances and how you feel.
It will probably give you worthwhile suggestions in regard to talking with her this Monday and how to plan the visit so that it could be fruitful, resulting in clarity and ability to make clear decisions, one way or the other.
When it gives you suggestions that don’t sit well with you, tell it about it, present your thoughts, doubts, etc. Have a conversation.
I’d say, prepare for the visit best you can, with AI”s help.
🤍 Anita
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