Then here it will be, Emma. If you change your mind, we’ll go to email (I copied your email address into my personal record)
I’ll write more tomorrow.

🤍 Anita

Dear Emma:

So good to read back from you. Generally, I prefer communicating here, on the forums, better than on email, but if you still prefer email- if you feel safer there, I will email you tomorrow with a response. I didn’t yet read all of your recent post (had a long day, tired).

So, please let me know if your definite preference is email, and if it is, my next message to you will be via email (tomorrow).

Anita

Dear Alessa:

In general, I understand your point, it’s a good point. You know what? I’ll stop quoting members, here and elsewhere, see how that works.

🌿 Anita

I am trying to understand your point, Alessa: The content of the quote (what Brandy wrote) was not “public shaming” of me? It’s me addressing her post (as part of the direct communication that you advocated for), that’s public shaming?

🌿 Anita

Dear Brandy:

On Sept 9, you wrote in a post addressed to me:

“I believe you use your sad childhood story to make excuses and justify bad behavior.
I believe you use your “status” on the forums to intimidate and silence members.
I believe you knew all along that Tee meant no harm.
I believe had members (and possibly a moderator?) not pushed back, you’d still be pushing your harmful narrative.
I believe your “assertiveness” is meant to control members and outcomes.
I believe you target certain members whom you feel threatened by.”-

Do you still believe all these things, 8 days later.. or was some of this said in the heat of the moment?

Anything at all that you regret saying in regard to any one of the above stated accusations?

I’m looking forward to an honest, direct and kind communication with you.

I will do my best to promote safety in this thread and everywhere else.

🌿 Anita

Dear Alessa (and Everyone reading):

“You are welcome to try to engage with Brandy or Yana directly on my thread, all I ask is that the nature of thread is honoured and you help to make this a safe and brave space for everyone.”-

I will do my very best to be honest and kind, both. I will also try to keep the next posts relatively short.

🌿 Anita

Dear Jana:

(is “Dear” okay with you?)

I just finished reading all your recent posts.

In regard to the most recent, right above: are you talking to me, or to Everyone (me included, or me excluded). I don’t understand.. there’s no name next to “you”.

Are you interested in me posting on this thread and addressing you directly (and respectfully)?

🌿 Anita

Dear Alessa:

(Is “Dear” okay with you..?)

“Do you think Yana or Brandy might feel unsafe too? It was suggested for you to speak directly to people if you have any issues with them. Why do you think that might be? Could it hurt people not being spoken to directly?… I felt unsafe while the conflict was going on too. ❤️ I know that it hurt Tee and I when we were ignored and not spoken too directly.”-

I didn’t realize (wasn’t aware) yesterday that I was not only speaking to you, Alessa (directly), but that I was speaking indirectly to Jana and to Brandy.

Tee explained to me very well (above) the nature of a public forum and I hope that I truly understand the problem in referring to any member (not just to you and to Tee) indirectly. I think that at this very moment, I fully understand that it’s wrong and unwise and why it is so.

I apologize, Jana and Brandy for talking about you indirectly. I apologize to you, Alessa, for talking about Jana and Brandy indirectly in your thread, placing you in an uncomfortable situation. Thank you, Alessa for bringing this up. ❤️

In my next post I will be speaking directly to Jana and to Alessa.

🌿 Anita