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  • #459147
    anita
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    It’s a pleasure having you here, ScottyDye. I would love to read more from you here, in your own thread, and in others’ threads ๐ŸŒฟโœจ๐ŸŒฟโœจ

    #459146
    anita
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    Hello JB ๐Ÿ™‚

    “The fear is much more specific: that everyone else in this particular friend group will be invited and I wonโ€™t be.”- this is a raw wound, one I can so very much relate to.

    In my life, particularly as a teenager, I chronically felt EX-cluded. The idea of being IN-cluded would have been a dream come true.

    Nothing would have been more Elating than Belonging, a WoW!!!

    Not even graduating from a full-time MBA program can match that longing-to-be-included?

    It’s close to midnight here. I, a stranger who can relate, I think, would like to explore this further with you in the morning, if you would like that?

    ๐ŸŒฟ Anita

    #459143
    anita
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    Hello ( again), Just a Dude Living Life ๐Ÿ™‚

    Living life with the fewest complications. I like that โœ”๏ธ

    And with humility: making peace with not knowing. I like that too โœ”๏ธโœ”๏ธ

    Reads like you got it, dude. Not in a grand, loud way, but in a quiet, gentle, humble way.

    ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ Anita

    #459141
    anita
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    Hey ๐Ÿ‘‹ Confused:

    I hear that reddit is not always a reliable source of information ๐Ÿ”

    I think that she’s very emotionally attached to you AND she’s overwhelmed. Maybe she feels that in her overwhelmed state she isn’t good- enough for the gem-Confused (she said: “you’re the gem here, not me”).

    Do you think this may be the case?

    ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ Anita

    #459140
    anita
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    Hey ScottyDye ๐ŸŒฟ

    Yes, intense abuse disrupts being care-free every time ๐Ÿ˜”

    The peace and freedom you’re experiencing shows in your organized, calm writing.

    I’m glad you read the bible per your interpretation!

    I like how the bible begins: “In the beginning”. Paraphrasing: in the beginning, all was chaotic and dark, and then God started organizing, separating and labeling things: sky and earth, dark and light, etc.

    Seems like that’s what you’ve been doing: Separating the later version of yourself (the raumatized, chaotic, overwhelmed ScottyDye) from the early on- in- the- beginning ScottyDye’ the “carefree and more simple- minded”..?

    And that’s why you like Lori’s book so much, Simple Wisdom.

    Yes, let’s keep it simple ๐Ÿ™‚

    ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ Anita

    #459131
    anita
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    Hello ScottyDye:

    “I’m untangling the thoughts in my brain, and returning to a simpler, much more fulfilling part of my life”-

    I wonder about that simpler, better part of your life, how it was for you?

    “I’m really attempting to change”- back to how life was, or something new?

    ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ Anita

    #459119
    anita
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    Dear James:

    AI: “La ilฤha illฤ Allฤ means ‘There is no god but Allah.’ This is the core declaration of Islamic faith โ€” the statement that affirms the absolute oneness of God and denies the existence of any other deity worthy of worship.
    Itโ€™s considered the foundation of tawแธฅฤซd (oneness of God) and the heart of the shahฤda, the Muslim testimony of faith.

    “Islamโ€™s central teachings emphasize Compassion (rahma), Justice (โ€˜adl), Protection of life, Care for the vulnerable, and Peaceful coexistence. The Qurโ€™an repeatedly says that God loves those who act with kindness, patience, and fairness, and that killing an innocent person is like killing all of humanity.

    “Most Muslims live quiet, ordinary, peaceful lives, and the heart of Islam teaches compassion, fairness, and care for others. Violence comes from politics, fear, and extremist groups โ€” not from the religion itself. When you look at the everyday practice of Islam, itโ€™s about prayer, kindness, family, and seeking peace with oneself and others.”

    #459118
    anita
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    I just asked Gemini and it says the NDRI group of atypical antidepressants, one of which is Wellbutrin, is known for way less sexual side- effects than the SSRIs

    #459117
    anita
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    Hey ๐Ÿ˜Š Confused:

    Actually, Gemini just showed up on my phone a week or so ago. I just asked him about Prozac and it verified what I said, that it is very well- known for sexual side- effects. It said that studies show that 60% of people using SSRIs in general, “or more”, it says, report sexual side- effects.

    In one of my previous posts I told you about another group of anti- depressants that cause way less such side- effects ( I don’t remember what it was. I’ll ask Gemini after I submit this message)

    The med removing the power of troubling thoughts is a plus โœ”๏ธโœ”๏ธโœ”๏ธ

    About Gemini saying something she said made you shutdown- yes, you mentioned before that even if she sounds distant a bit, or not as loving as a moment before, that alone triggers your shutdown.

    Do you think that a different woman won’t trigger a shutdown?

    The changing from the “loving one” and the “stone cold” one- I agree with you that the changing from the loving => the stone-cold one is about trying to avoid hurt- good insight, Confused๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

    ๐Ÿ” (just because) Anita

    #459115
    anita
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    Or should I address you as Tommy..?

    #459114
    anita
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    And thank you, Thomas ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™-

    3 thank you-s because as I read your other message (submitted 4 min before this one), I experienced the first ๐Ÿ˜ on my face this long, rainy, boring evening (here).

    I love your sense of humor (consider me a fan)

    ๐Ÿ˜Š โœ”๏ธ Anita

    #459111
    anita
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    Hey ๐Ÿ‘‹ Confused:

    Prozac is the first ever SSRI and it’s known for sexual side- effects. I hope that you stick with the current med and consult with the psych regarding changing dosages, adding anything or any other changes. What’s most important is your mental- emotional health ( more than the reversible sexual side- effects)

    You’re ruminating 24/7? If so, the current med or current dosage may need to be changed/ adjusted.

    Yes, shutdown = mental/ emotional withdrawal. Don’t you think?

    ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ Anita

    #459110
    anita
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    Dear James ๐Ÿ™‚

    “Being noble and gentlemany becomes inevitable… respect becomes inevitable”- I like that very much.

    Noble, gentle(wo)manly, respectful- this is what I want to be, always.

    La ilahe lllallah”- I think it translates to God (Allah) is one? I will look it up later when I get to use the computer.

    ๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒฟ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒฟ Anita

    #459103
    anita
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    Dear James:

    “Know that every feeling is Him… โ€‹Know that every thought is Him, and there are no longer positive or negative thoughts.”-

    An inner struggle only exists when the mind is treating something as an opponent. If nothing in my experience is being opposed, the struggle dissolves.

    In other words: a fight requires two sides โ€” a ‘me’ who resists, and a ‘thing’ to resist. When every thought, feeling, moment, or outcome is allowed to be exactly what it is โ€” not judged, not labeled, not pushed away โ€” the second side of the fight disappears.

    When thereโ€™s no enemy, no problem to solve, nothing inside to wrestle with, the body softens and the mind quiets.

    This is what your words brought up for me today, James. I would like your thoughts about my understanding ๐Ÿ™

    ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ Anita

    #459094
    anita
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    Hey ๐Ÿ™‚ Confused:

    About checking your feelings 3 times a day, what if you ask yourself ‘How am I feeling?” and then type away whatever comes to mind at the pace it’s coming out, if it does at all (in which case, you can type something like: ‘Nothing’s coming up, I feel nothing, etc.”?

    Seems like she’s taking care of herself following feeling pressured/ overwhelmed. In a way, she’s like you: withdrawing when feeling too much.

    Do you think that the two of you are similar in this way?

    About withdrawing from the med, please consult the psych before- and if you do. Maybe you expect perfect results from taking it (an all-or-nothing kind of thinking), and you’re not paying attention to improvements that the med does provide..?

    ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ Anita

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