Hi Nichole:

Ha- ha, the lack of sleep, humidity, fire smoke from Canada… and that’s all it took for me to miscalculate: it was a bit after 11 pm your time when I submitted the above. Now it’s after midnight.

I’ll B Back 2 U in the morning.

🌿 Anita

3 hours ahead of you, 8:05 here

Hi Tom:

I am sorry to read about the miscarriage.

No worries about the silence here. Anytime you post here is appreciated 🙏

I hope the small Euro trip gives you and your partner some joy.

I wish the 3 weeks leading to the trip were less of a battle.

🌿 Anita

Dear Eva:

I am sorry you had such a disheartening experience with your co- worker. His behavior was offensive, it would offend anyone 😔

I was wondering: the 2nd ex you shared about was in the same friend group as your first (the reason, he said, why he kept you a secret).

The coworker you shared about most recently is also in a group of coworkers, a group that includes you.

As part of group dynamics, people talk about each other, forming impressions through stories shared (gossip).

Do you think this is part of what’s been going on?

🤔 Anita

Hi 🌿🐺 SereneWolf:

I’m tired but fine — thank you for asking. And I have to say, it made me smile that exactly an hour & 5 minutes ago (by the time I submit this message), a 🌿🐺 from across the world submitted a post to me.

About my kind words — you’re welcome. They’re sincere. You’ve been consistently gracious and kind through the years, no matter what. That’s definitely a positively special 🐺🤍

What stood out to me most in your message was this:

“I don’t think I need more answers anymore. I think I just need to keep taking the next small step, even with uncertainty.”-

There’s more self‑trust in your tone now, less fear, and more clarity about your patterns. What you wrote shows real growth. Saying you don’t need more answers anymore — and that you’re willing to take small steps even without certainty — is a major shift from reassurance‑seeking.

And of course, it won’t always be smooth or easy — growth never is. But the way you’re facing uncertainty now shows real courage, and I believe these small steps you’re taking will keep opening the path forward. One small step at a time is enough 🙂

🌿 🌿 🌿 Anita

Hello again, Stephanie 🙂

You are very welcome and thank you for the update. I’m really sorry you’re dealing with so much instability around you. Sudden staffing changes, unclear decisions, and messages from leadership that don’t match your actual behavior would make anyone feel unsafe.

From what you describe, you are taking accountability: you acknowledge mistakes, correct them, and outline how you’ll prevent them going forward. It makes sense that being told you’re “not trustworthy” or “need to be told to do your job” would feel confusing and unfair when your actions show the opposite.

I’m glad you have coworkers who understand what’s happening and can share some humor to get through the days. I’m here, and I’m glad you reached out.

🌿✨️🌿 Anita

Dear Eva 🙂

What you’re describing sounds indeed like total exhaustion — the kind that happens when too many things fall apart and you’re left questioning everything. You’ve been dealing with failed relationships, friends who disappeared when you were honest, a family that treats you like the black sheep, and now an inner voice that says maybe you’re the problem.

Anyone would feel overwhelmed in that mix.

When life hits from so many directions, the nervous system gets flooded and the future feels like a blank wall. What you’re feeling is what happens when you’ve been carrying too much without enough support. You’re in a transition, not a dead end.

You don’t have to solve your whole future at once — you just need one small, humane step at a time. And none of this means the problem is you. It means you’re tired, and you deserve gentleness, not judgment.

🌿🌿🌿 Anita