Hey, Confused:

“I’ve only known how to be strong and be there for other”- if you let others be there for you, if you depend on another.. is it strength or weakness?

Anita

Dear Thomas:

How kind of you to check on Laven for a second time, and to hope that she’s healthy, happy and safe.

Thank you for your kind words, Thomas. I think you’re quite capable to touch another’s pain and bring relief and.. you are not mis stepping!

Christmas Day is almost over.

Have a Merry Christmas Evening Thomas

And Laven 🎄✨🎅🤶🕯️❄️⛄🎁🌟🦌🍪🥛🧦🔔🎀

Dear Laven: We (Thomas and I) are hoping to read from you soon.

🤍  Anita

Dear James: you are interpreting a personal, extreme experience as a universal truth.

You described a year in darkness and silence, 8–10 hours of meditation per day, a near‑death experience, an open‑heart surgery, a belief that you “died many times”. Long periods of isolation or sensory reduction can lead to: feeling detached from one’s body,
feeling like the self is unreal, feeling like thoughts are happening ‘on their own’, and a sense that the world is dreamlike or empty

This is dissociation and depersonalization that can make someone interpret their experience as “there is no self” or “everything is nothing.”

A conviction that your experience is the only truth, warnings that others will “burn” or “go insane” if they don’t accept your view0 this worldview, is being filtered through extreme sensory deprivation, trauma, isolation and altered states of consciousness, a collapse of personal identity, and a strong need to universalize your experience.

Those factors make you sound rigid, apocalyptic, absolutist, disconnected from shared reality, convinced you’ve discovered a final truth.

You interpret your internal experience as: the nature of the universe, the fate of all humans, the only truth, a warning others must hear. That’s why your messages feel heavy, fatalistic, and sometimes frightening. This is your psychological state being treated (by you) as metaphysics.

The worldview you’re expressing — “there is no self, no awareness, no soul, no meaning, only nothingness” — is functionally absolute nihilism. Again, you’re interpreting a personal psychological state as universal truth, which is why it comes across as nihilism rather than non‑duality.

You deny the validity of all other experiences. When Tee mentions NDEs full of love, light, or consciousness, you dismiss them as “mind.” When I described non‑duality, you dismiss it as “belief.”

This is classic nihilistic absolutism: “My nothingness is the only truth; everything else is illusion.”

That’s not philosophy — that’s personal nihilism interpreted as cosmic law.

You reject all relational concepts of love. You say love is: “Being nothing.”, “No one to protect.”, “No one to suffer.” This is not love as any spiritual tradition defines it. It’s the emotional tone of nihilism dressed in spiritual language.

You repeatedly say: “Awareness is nothingness.”, “The soul is nothingness.”, “Before birth = nothing. After death = nothing.”, “There is no you.”, “Everything you attach to burns.”- This is not non‑duality.

Non‑duality says the personal self dissolves into awareness, not into nothing.

You say awareness itself dissolves. That’s absolute nihilism.

You deny the existence of: a self, a soul, awareness, consciousness, meaning, continuity after death, any underlying reality beyond the body- This is the core of metaphysical nihilism (nothing exists in any meaningful sense) and existential nihilism (life has no inherent meaning).

Dear Tee: you’ve been engaging with patience and curiosity, and your question is exactly the right one. You’re not dismissing James’s experience; you’re simply pointing out the contradiction between: “There is no self,” and “I am here to warn you, you misunderstand, you must see the truth.” That contradiction matters because if there is no “James,” then there is also no one to warn, no one to correct, no one to insist on a single truth.

Someone — or some perspective — is clearly interacting with us. Calling it “nothingness” doesn’t explain the activity we’re all witnessing.

Your worldview, James, blends ego‑death language, sensory deprivation effects, and personal trauma into an absolutist philosophy that isn’t true non‑duality but a personalized form of nihilism.

Tee’s question— “Who is engaging with us if not James?”—is the perfect way to expose the contradiction in your claims, because you insist the self doesn’t exist while actively arguing, warning, and choosing words. You will likely respond with phrases like “there is no doer,” which avoid the contradiction rather than resolve it.

A grounded reply should gently point out that even if the self is seen as an illusion, illusions still function, and someone—or some perspective—is clearly choosing to type, argue, and interpret experiences. This shifts the conversation from metaphysical proclamations to observable reality, where a meaningful dialogue can actually occur.

Anita

Hello again and again.. Confused 😊:

“How do you make it known to yourself?”- By knowing I didn’t deserve my mother’s abuse/ non-love. That she didn’t even SEE me, let alone, evaluate me. Her judgment is peeled off of me, and what’s left is a good little girl dormant for half a century.

“I never thought to give my mother’s words importance”- that must have been after her words were already absorbed, taking hold.. Maybe later when you were a teenager, you rebelled, fought back. But the young boy you were, like any child, just absorbs, no defenses.

🤍 Anita

Dear James/ Everyone:

James, Dec 24: “There is no life after physical death… The core of the so called soul is nothingness… it comes to surrendering to non experience or nothingness, things will be change.”-

You’re basically saying:

1. When the body dies, that’s it- there is no life after death, no continuation of the self, no consciousness that survives.

2. The “soul” is not a real thing- the core of a person is nothingness, not an eternal essence. Before birth = nothing After death = nothing.

You’re basically telling people: ‘Don’t fool yourself with comforting stories (like NDEs). When the brain dies, there is no awareness left. Prepare yourself for that truth.’

What could possibly be the benefit is this message, I ask myself. According to you: to not be shocked, terrified and overwhelmed later on when one realizes that there’s no afterlife of any kind, no soul or consciousness that continues, no meaning.

Preparing now = reducing the shock later. Seeing “the nothing” early prevents disappointment later.

In your view: better to know now than later.

All this fits perfectly with the nihilistic worldview. This is NOT non‑duality

Non‑duality says: the personal self dissolves but awareness remains

James says: the personal self dissolves and awareness also ends.

Nihilism — the view that life has no inherent meaning, purpose, or value

Non‑duality — the view that separation is an illusion and everything is one unified reality

I read that Nihilism can help people, but only for a while. Sometimes nihilism is the first moment someone realizes: ‘I don’t have to believe everything I was taught.’, and ‘I can question everything.’ That can actually be freeing. It clears away old beliefs that don’t fit anymore. But nihilism stops being helpful when someone treats it like the final truth. If you stay in it too long, it can turn into: apathy, hopelessness, feeling like nothing matters

It’s like tearing down an old house: useful if the house is falling apart. Not useful if you try to live in the rubble.

For a lot of people, nihilism is a transition — a phase you pass through on the way to something deeper. It’s the moment when your old worldview collapses, but the new one hasn’t formed yet.

That’s why nihilism often shows up right before people discover ideas like non‑duality, spirituality, or a more grounded sense of meaning.

So, nihilism can help — but mostly as a step, not a destination.

Q: When someone rejects: religion, morality, purpose, cosmic meaning, spiritual ideas, objective values (nihilism).. what’s left?

A: Just the ego’s experience. So, the ego becomes the center of the universe by default — because everything else has been stripped away.

Non‑duality flips the whole thing: the ego is not the center. The ego is not the only thing that exists. The ego is not the source of reality Instead, it says: the ego is just a temporary appearance in a larger field of awareness. The ego is just one wave in that ocean

I, Anita, am just that, one wave in the ocean, temporary, never separate from the ocean. I want to be more and more the ocean.

I will do my best to be a humble wave in the ocean. Thank you for helping me in this regard, James. It’s just that I don’t want to engage in nihilism thought, my personal choice. So, goodbye James. I will no longer post in your threads. I wish you well.

🌊🌊🌊 Anita