Trust is so very important, Thomas. It’s so very important to me to be worthy of it!

Hi again, Peter:

As I was preparing to leave, after reading your recent 2 posts, it occurred to me what I think you mean: that all past efforts on your part to earn self worth (including being “good”) failed and now, what is working for you is the non-effort way, to connect with your Tao essence that requires you to NOT try anything anymore, just.. sort of melt into what you are beyond efforts, labels, etc. Did I understand correctly?

Anita

Dear Roberta:

“What do you believe good is? & how do you manifest it?”- Good is first Do-No-Harm, and second, to Help people who need help. And to help in ways that don’t harm.

For example, my mother helped me shower and dress me even when I was a teenager. It was Harmful Help (HH), the kind of help I so wish I never received because it squashed my autonomy and shamed me.

Another example of HH: in these forums, with the intent to help (and to please myself because I enjoy analyzing people), I have analyzed OPs who didn’t ask for my analyses, and I have no doubt that sometimes my analyses harmed people, at least, made them feel uncomfortable, intruded upon.

Manifesting good has to involve awareness and honest self reflection in regard to what it is that motivates me, what I need, and what the other person needs.

“Does drawing/painting & or physically writing with a pen help?”- it used to, very much so. I hardly ever write and I haven’t drawn or painted for years and years.

“For me visualization & mantra are a good medium to counteract negativity that arises in my mind & helps me move forward in a positive way.”- I use your GRACE mantra every single day, in a paraphrased, shortened form. Thank you, Roberta!

Best wishes back to you, Anita

Well, Thomas, I figure if anyone has a problem with any of your posts, or mine, they should directly say so, and explain why: be honest and direct about it.

It could have been anyone scrolling through messages and accidently clicking “Report”.

Regardless, Thomas- I’m with you.. I appreciate you, and want to read more and more from you!

Anita

Dear Peter:

You are inviting me to pick one truth I believe (like “I am good”), stop re‑checking it, and let it live inside me without effort.

What’s been in my way is another belief: that my mother was good, and since she told me I was bad, she must be right. That message was drilled into me for decades, and I still find myself pulled back into seeing her as good, which automatically means I am bad. It’s like old pathways in my brain that keep re‑activating.

Yet I wonder now, following your invitation0: what if I build a new pathway that doesn’t depend on her at all? One that simply says “I am good,” without needing to see her in any particular way. A truth that is mine alone, one that’s not dependent on seeing her any which way?

The last three words in your post were “living more freely.” Maybe this is my way of stepping into what you call Flow—or Presence—by letting “I am good” live in me freely, without needing her permission, and discovering how that truth can carry me forward.

I’d be curious to read how this idea of separating my goodness from her image resonates with you, since you’ve been exploring Flow in your own way.

🤍 Anita

Thank you, Thomas. We’re all work in progress.. if we care to work it 🙂.

And I am sorry too, Thomas. Let’s become better and better people together..

🤍 Anita