Hi Anita,

I didn’t reply but read your thoughts when you posted.. Ignorant of me I know and I hope you’ll forgive me. My heads been all over the place the past 3 months or so..

Abit of an update.. I spoke to her and took what you said into account. That we should understand each other better.

She told me she did enjoy the attention, laughs and closeness she shared with the guy at work. That she never thought of dating him per say, mainly because he wasn’t Muslim but nonetheless, she enjoyed having someone new and a friend when I’d left.

Her view is that she couldn’t ever picture him like that. She says she’s confused as to how she felt about him.. But felt as it wasn’t an ordinary friendship – she described him as her new best friend and that she felt comfortable around him.

This bothers me a lot – especially that she told me it was nothing more than friendship and she’d never seen him in that way.

I feel as if I will break up with her.. Not only because of the lies but because I can’t take that me leaving for a new job led her to someone else that she’d talk to me daily about.

Can you share some advice? Without talking about manipulation.. I just need an outside view. She never touched and in her eyes she says it was never flirty.. But she just enjoyed his company and maybe if he was Muslim, things would’ve been different. @anita